Oh my goodness…… For a while there, I was speechless, but as always, that moment of stunned silence passes & I can’t leave without commenting on something that I hear or read, like this, that fuels my fire.
Cammi. For me, it’s simple….. Thank you.
Thank you for having the balls to not only write but put this out there because I am so sick of feeling like I HAVE to maintain a positive outlook 24/7. And wear the fake stiff upper lip, for the sake of others.…. You’re so right. Negativity is necessary. Nobody wants it. Nobody likes it. Nobody wants to deal with anyone else’s but it’s just tough. And it’s the reason why every generation seems to become more & more unable to handle life when shit is delivered to their door.
Obviously, we are human. And obviously we are all different, but why are we obsessed with positivity & not ‘allowing’ ourselves to be infected by the negative syndrome.
Where there’s light, there’s dark, day & night, north & south, male & female, yin & yang, sweet & sour – soooooooo, doesn’t this scientific or life fact/rule apply with the positive? Absolutely. And you, so effortlessly show what I’ve been trying to explain to the narrow minds who judged, & still do judge me for now embracing these concepts & not hiding my feelings.
I have had my fair load, and probably more than most will deal with in a lifetime, but I know I’m not alone there, in fact, I’m humbled by the other stories I come across of far worse than you’d think a person would manage to survive. But what sticks in my throat are the reactions (even my own mother) of others who are lucky enough to have no clue how you’re feeling but think they’re in a position to look down upon you & (cruelly twist the knife by) removing, or shaming you into hiding, your tool for enabling you deal with the negative or uncomfortable & to quietly move on, simply because THEY then have to see or acknowledge it too. Doing this is actually one of the most negative things that they could do & simply makes your personal hell implode or become toxic later on in life.
If only I had been afforded the luxury of being allowed to feel my pain or show my feelings right at the moment of impact, when I should’ve, could’ve & would’ve, (had I not been put in my place by her, embarrassingly in front of my daughters and their friends, so they) & I, then would have avoided all the permanent damage left by the stress induced health issues that followed & all our lives made very much easier & comprehendable & most importantly, less traumatic.
I CANT STRESS JUST HOW MUCH YOU NEED TO ALLOW AND ACCEPT NEGATIVITY WHETHER ITS DIRECTLY YOURS OR SHARED BY OTHERS AND REACT HOW YOU NEED TO AT THAT TIME BECAUSE ITS NORMAL.
Not only that, it doesn’t last forever & actually makes your a much better/more solid person. :)