I’m Confident that You’re Not

I could never really understand timid people. Why are you so unsure of yourself? Are you so uncertain of where you are going that you need to stop walking in crowded areas to think about it? Are you that embarrassed by what you want to say that you have to whisper it? Are you so afraid of what could potentially happen that you won’t do it in the first place? Get your life together.

The root of the problem is confidence, or a lack thereof. I grew up an overprotected introvert who never got the chance to develop social skills, so when I entered college, I made it my life mission to develop said skills. After reading several self-help ebooks and watching several YouTube videos, guess what every “professional” suggested developing first. Confidence is easily the most underrated character trait. After my years of research and practice, I’ve noticed that the majority of people I’ve encountered are either missing it entirely or have an illegitimate form of it.

Now you might be asking, how does one develop legitimate confidence? Well for starters, you can’t base your confidence off of anything tangible. If you’re only confident when you’re with your friends, when you’re wearing your best clothes, when you’ve had a few drinks or anything to that effect, you are doing it wrong. Then, when you’re by yourself, wearing your “laundry day” clothes, sober, etc, you’ll be as confident as a 6 year old who was just booed off stage during his/her first acting performance.

The trick is, you have to be confident in who you are as a person. People who have legitimate confidence aren’t phased by what others think, because at the end of the day they know who they are.

Recognize your strengths and weaknesses, your passions and goals, everything else that composes who you are as an individual. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. If you love something about yourself, emphasize it.

Take ownership of your life and your confidence will skyrocket — guaranteed.

That’s all I got. Confidence is a topic that hits home for me so I hope y’all got something from this. Check back next Sunday for more goodness.