Loners?

Contrary to popular belief, I am in fact, an introvert. But what does it mean to be introverted? Does it mean that I prefer to be alone? Do I hate being in social situations? Does it mean I lack social skills? No, no and no. The definition of an introvert that I’ve come to accept is someone who is energized by spending time alone.

Being an introvert does not mean that you have no social skills or that you’re shy and quiet. The word introvert has been given a negative connotation and has been used to describe people who never want to hang out or have social interactions. That is complete rubbish!

Growing up I was either at school, church, a family member’s house or my own house. I certainly had friends and wouldn’t have minded hanging out with them, but I wasn’t bothered by being home most of the time. Around high school I began to learn some social skills and eventually started hanging out more and more. However, I still relished the end of the day when I could quietly chill in my own room by myself. These days I go out as much as you would expect a college kid to, and being in a fraternity certainly helps. Even so, my favorite part of any day is the end when I’m chilling by myself in my own room.

I’ve gotten to the point where I can enjoy myself in any situation. I appear to be socially active and am often mislabeled as an extrovert. People don’t realize that being social is mentally draining for me, the higher the intensity the faster the drain. I turn down invitations regularly, not because I have anything against the person who invited me or dislike the event, but because I need to recharge in solitude.

If someone you know is an introvert and denies an invitation for no clear reason, don’t hold it against them, just try to understand that it’s necessary for them to remain sane. On the other side of the coin, if you’re lacking social skills or confidence, don’t blame it on being an introvert, blame it on you being lazy. You can learn any skill, social skills included. Instead of sitting in solitude, full of regret because you missed another event, go out and learn the skills that permit you to enjoy yourself.

Get your life together!!

If you can relate to any of this, feel free to drop a comment below. I will respond to every single person. Look out for my post next Sunday, it’ll be there.