Is She Catholic And Can She Make A Roux?

I can’t remember the first time my dad asked me this, but I know that when I heard it I laughed it off, not really understanding what it meant. It was something my great-grandmother used to say. Maybe as a joke. Maybe not. But I never thought it applied to me. I’m not Catholic and I know how to cook, so who really cares? But, for some reason I started really thinking about what that phrase means for me and it made me re-evaluate what I’ve learned (or should have learned) from my past relationships.

Is she Catholic?

Like I said, I’m not Catholic. I’m not particularly religious at all. So if she was Catholic I’m not sure how well she would like me. But that’s kind of the point, isn’t it? The real question is,

“Where do you both stand on moral, ethical, political, cultural, social issues, etc? And are these views compatible?”

That’s heavy to think about when you’re first getting to know someone, but I’ve always found that it’s going to show itself over and over, especially if you have strong convictions about your beliefs. These core values speak to who you are as a person, how you make decisions, how you conduct yourself, how you spend your free time, how you intend to resolve conflicts, and the things that you want from life. Are you or your partner going to feel guilt or face criticisms over the conduct of the other? Culture runs deep. It’s an important question to ask.

Can she make a roux?

I’m not sure how prevalent the ability to make a roux is anymore. So you might be looking a while for this one if you take it literally. But I take this question to mean,

“Do you both possess complimentary life skills, habits, etc?”

This is so hard to gauge because you can talk all day about the things you think you know and do, but until you’re stuck in the same apartment with that person every day you don’t really know. It’s hard to think of all the little things that you don’t remember that you expect. But I think the goal here is to either be surprised by all the things your partner does that you totally suck at or at least have the same expectations about what’s acceptable. I am terrible about bleaching the tub. Absolutely awful about it. But I am pretty good about keeping the sink clear of dishes. See what I’m getting at here? Compliments. Maybe that’s why people say opposites attract. I dunno. But it’s something to think about.

But please, don’t listen to me

I’m a single guy; I’ve never been married. I don’t know anything. I’m just thinking out loud.


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