8 Years Ago I Had a Pretty Disaster of a Wedding. This Year, We Get a Wedding Reboot!
Why I decided to become a wedding blogger!
A few days ago, I decided to share my wedding story for the first time—partly because it was so much of a train wreck that I’m determined to save at least one couple from venturing into wedding day hell…and partly because if I’m going to blog about weddings, I might as well start with my own! 💁 So, let the train wreck begin…
My wedding 8 yrs ago was a complete disaster! And, I don’t mean a couple of things were out of place...EVERYTHING I never knew could go wrong did! For starters, we had a tight budget to begin with because we were taking a couple of trips that year, so I did all the wedding planning myself. (Fail #1: If you can afford a wedding planner, hire one!) I was supposed to have a friend help me, but I ended up planning the whole event anyway. I thought that I was off to a great start, because all of the deposits were paid, invitations were sent out, and my dress was ready to make it’s debut down the aisle. Little did I know that deposits and invitations would be the least of my problems!
Fast forward to the week of the wedding.
(For the remainder of the story, please keep in mind that our wedding was on a Saturday.)
5-7 days before the wedding, we were told that our DJ had a funeral to attend and could no longer service our wedding. (Fail #2: Always have a backup DJ or band in mind just in case.) On Wednesday, three days before our wedding, one of my bridesmaids who was supposed to special order her gown told me that she never ordered her dress.
Pause.
This was after I had offered to pay for her dress many times, and she declined. This was also after checking in periodically, and she assured me that she would have the dress in time. (Fail #3: I should’ve just bought the dress anyway and returned it after the wedding if she didn’t need it.) On Friday evening, the night before my wedding, I went to visit my florist to pick up ALL of my custom florals for the bouquet, boutonnieres, bridesmaid flowers, etc. Nothing. My lovely florist didn’t even call ahead, and I had to find out Friday evening that she didn’t order ANY of the flowers because some of them were out of season. (Refer to Fail #1. Wedding flowers are the wedding planner’s responsibility, hire one!) Again, this was at 10:00 pm the night before! Around an hour later, my bridesmaid that told me on Wednesday that she didn’t have a dress decided that she didn’t want to be in my wedding at all! There was no dispute. I begged her. We were childhood friends, and at this point, I’m tired, hungry, fed up, and ready to call the wedding off. 😩
Is this a sign??? What is happening?!!
The next morning, I wake up to a makeup artist cancelation. I don’t even have time to try to find someone else to do my makeup, because I’m busy driving around trying to find wedding flowers! The ceremony time is finally here. My mom and family keep calling me wondering where I am, and I’m no where near the venue, because I’m at Walmart grabbing roses, rose petals and flower girl baskets thanks to my ex-florist. Relieved that I finally found some flowers that’ll work, I went to pay for them...and, I realize that I left my wallet at home! (Is this a sign??? What is happening?!! 😫) I somehow found just enough cash stuffed in the bottom of my purse ( Those huge suitcase purses are good for something! 🙌) but I had to have my mom and sister go back and look for my wallet, because we were scheduled to leave for our honeymoon right after the wedding. No ID, no honeymoon. Of course, I ended up making it to my wedding super late! No makeup artist, Walmart flowers, one less bridesmaid...but I made it!
Vows, kisses, and pictures are now complete, but everything was so much later than expected, because I was out looking for wedding flowers while I should’ve been getting glammed up! 😞 After the wedding, we realized that we were about to miss our flight, so we had to rush from the chapel without eating, without a first dance, without toasts and well wishes, and without having that “I just got married!” excitement.
But, the good news is we're doing it all over again! 💃 In fact, I'm so obsessed with planning our wedding reboot, that it drove me to stop all of my previous jewelry designing projects and start a daily instablog about weddings, engagements, and honeymoons! My poor husband now has a list of no less than 435,765,872 honeymoon destinations to choose from! 😁
So, if you’ve read this far, just know that a lot can go wrong before, during, or after the wedding. Fortunately, it doesn’t change the marriage in any way, and if you didn’t have the wedding that you wanted, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have your dream wedding one day! Good luck to everyone that’s on the same path to having a drama-free wedding! 💆
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