Men Have Feelings?
Men have feelings. This is not a hypothesis. This is a fact. A statement. A collection of words as firm and concrete as the pavement.
Men have feelings. This is not an observation. I am a man, a young one, but still, I am speaking from experience. I am a newscaster who actually has to live in the field he is reporting from. I know several men. I have friends who are men, and I know for a fact, they have feelings. I know because we’ve talked about them. Not in the same way we’d openly talk about sports or ideas. We talk about our true emotions in secrecy, when the restless world is asleep and we are sure no one else can hear us. But we still talk about them.
Men have feelings, but for some reason, society has made it an embarrassment for us to express our emotions. As if expressing your feelings is equivalent to your masculinity walking down a never ending hall of shame with it’s pants down, heart exposed like a full moon, crowds on both sides of that wretched lane, pointing, laughing, making you feel less than whatever a man is “supposed” to be, simply because you’d rather not hide how you feel.
Men have feelings. Those who belittle them for embracing their inner self are usually other men. Other men who are too afraid of their feelings. Men who do not know how to express those feelings. There are people in this world that, when they are too afraid or do not know how to do something, will do whatever it takes to make sure no one else can do it either. They will try their best to make you wish you weren’t you, only because they wish they could do what you do.
Men have feelings. Every man is not Drake or Frank Ocean. Every man does not know how to take the clustered static of emotion and compress it in to a cohesive program that can be easily consumed and understood by a broad audience. Every man does not know how to express how he feels. But every man has feelings. Even when it seems like he feels nothing, don’t worry, he does.
We all have feelings. Do not hide your feelings. You do not know when you will get to tell someone you love them for the last time. Do not hide your feelings. You do not know if the last face your mother will ever see you make is a frown. Do not hide your feelings. You do not know how the young boy who looks up to you will grow cold because you told him that boys should never cry. Do not hide your feelings. No matter how hard you try to keep them hidden, no matter how hard you try to keep the world from finding your safely guarded vault of emotion, your emotions will always find you. You will explode. Do not bottle in anything anymore. You do not know when this will all be over. But you do know how you feel. Do not hide that. Let it out.
Men have feelings. And, although we’ve been taught that it’s not, it is okay to have feelings. Do not hide them. Express yourself. Just try it. We do not like to say we are sad or depressed or excited or hurt. But just try it, and soon you’ll discover a new feeling you’ll never want to lose: Freedom.
Originally published at davidfnmorgan.com.