Changing Who You Are

People can’t change! Yes, you read that right.

It is as apt a reason as you would ever get as to why you find it hard to breakthrough to the personality or character you have made up in your head as who you want to be.

We only evolve into better versions of ourselves, at best. What exactly fosters this evolution?

  1. Thoughts:

The Law of Attraction is a classic instance of the Law of Cause and Effect. The Law of Attraction explains almost every circumstance of your life. You inevitably attract into your life the people, circumstances, ideas and resources in harmony with your dominant thoughts.

The thoughts you have are the causes, what you attract by those thoughts are the effects. Once your thoughts are on a track, you cannot dodge what is coming. William James of Harvard wrote that, “Belief creates the actual fact.” In the New Testament it says, “According to your faith, it is done unto you.” In the Old Testament, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

2. Habits

“We become what we put our time into” — the quote that has been stuck in my head all through my young adult life.

People do not realise, they do little or nothing to adopt the habits (an automatic pattern of behaviour in reaction to a specific situation that may be inherited or acquired through frequent repetition) that make up the character they have made up in their heads. Most people do not have enough detail in their imagination to figure out what these habits are — this is where role models come in handy.

Most (mediocre) people say “when I get home I gonna study for 3 hours”… Those people very often end up watching NetFlix or Snapchat or whatever floats their boat. You should (successful people) say “When I get home, instead of watching Snapchat for 2 hours, I’m gonna have some studying done for 2 hours”. You are replacing habits in this case. And that’s it — habits, can only be replaced!

3. Journal keeping

Journals, Diaries, Self Notes, have there ever been more efficient self-assessment tools? While they may be difficult to keep in reality, what is a better motivator than a self-written down-to-earth evaluation of your progress, habits, results?

Journals are tedious and boring to keep or used to be, before your destructive texting and smartphone addiction were flipped to your favour by this amazing product I found on an app review site myself — after digging the web for months.