My Spouse was Cheating. Here’s How I Proved It.

This is a guest post from Trustify.

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Cheating is easier now than it has ever been before. With social media networks, online dating, e-mail, texting, and an array of digital means to carry out an affair, romantic partners are straying with ease. The technological revolution is a double-edged sword, however, making it even easier to catch someone in the act.

This does not ease the pain or the consequences of cheating on a marriage. I was devastated when I confirmed my suspicions that my wife was cheating, but in the end, I was happier to know the truth and move on with my life. As I discovered, the truth will set you free.

If you suspect your spouse is being unfaithful, don’t wallow in the purgatory of the unknown any longer. Follow these steps to prove he or she cheating once and for all.

Test Your Partner

The next time your partner claims to have seen a movie with his or her friends or to head out on a relaxing weekend at the spa or golf range, consider this an opportunity. When your spouse returns from the outing, ask thoughtful and detailed questions that require more than a yes or no answer. Double back and use the answers from those questions to ask more detailed questions. Throughout the conversation, pay notice to your partner’s body language. Fidgeting, stuttering, a self-touch gesture, such as playing with one’s hair, and an aversion to eye contact are all signs of lying.

Change Your Plans

Tell your spouse that you have to go out of town for work and then tell them the trip was canceled at the last minute. Organize a night out with your friends and return home hours earlier than you had said you would. Stop by the home in the middle of the day, for lunch or to grab your gym bag, unannounced and without warning. In any of these situations, pay attention to your spouse’s reaction. Is she or he flustered and irritated? Does she or he immediately pick up the phone and text away? Gauge your spouse’s response to see if she or he is hiding something.

Search Your Partner’s Smartphone, Computer and Email

Asking questions and changing plans on your partner are not sure-fire ways to catch a cheater. Technology, however, leaves many breadcrumbs. While it may feel like an invasion of privacy, you will simply have to come to terms with it. The act of cheating is certainly a bigger betrayal than snooping, and honest partners will have nothing to hide. If you can get your hands on your partner’s smartphone, reading text messages and emails is very simple. If you don’t know your partner’s passwords, you may need to turn to more complicated computer forensics, such as spyware that you load onto a phone or computer. The spyware tracks all messages going in and out and sends you regular updates when “hot words” pop up.

Track Your Partner’s Vehicle

If your partner leaves at odd times during the day and night, claiming to run errands or shop for groceries, but returns empty-handed, you have cause for suspicion. Finding out where your spouse is going is easy. Simply place a small, wallet-sized GPS tracker under his or her car. Many of these trackers send updates to your phone and can be easily purchased at electronics stores or online. After a week of tracking your spouse’s movements, you can decipher where he or she is going and whom he or she might be seeing.

Conduct Surveillance and Get Photos

Photos are critical evidence during divorce proceedings, because adultery is often grounds for reducing alimony or spousal support. They will also prove helpful during custody hearings to demonstrate that you are not at fault for the dissolution of the marriage. However, it is advisable to hire a professional to conduct surveillance and take photos. This will prevent any emotional situations or embarrassing moments on your behalf.

It will never be easy to accept that your spouse is cheating on you. But with the power of knowledge, you can ensure that you are behaving in a way that is best for you — protecting your assets, shielding your children and setting you free from an unhappy and dishonest marriage.

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