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Do you listen, or simply waiting to reply?

Do you ever know someone whom you share with but flipped it into their own attention seeking show?

Those people exist, and are the last person you want to share your feelings with. They think everything is about them. Even when you are sad and they dont listen, it has to be about them. They will throw you their own problems so you will excuse them for being insensitive.

Here’s some tips so you won’t end up like them:

  1. Actually listen.

Shut down your PC, stay away from the crowd, do not multitask … just listen. Use your brain, heart and soul if you might. Listen to what they are saying, understand what they want and need. Don’t have to think anything to say if you don’t have it.

You may be lucky to be able to understand who they are underneath.

2. Do not interupt

Just don’t be this bitch.

3. Give signals that you’re listening

Nod, make little sounds, maintain eye contact and any other gestures that let them know that you’re listening. This is a respect for them. Especially if you want to make yourself their home.

4. Do not patronize

Do you think you’re smarter than them? Na ah. You’re not.

5. Do not argue

The last time i checked, its about being able to let out your feelings without being judged. Arguing isn’t not gonna help. That person come to you wounded, heartbroken and vulnerable. He is looking for a wall to lean on even just for a second. How dare you to smash the crack.

I mean, what the fuck do you wanna do? Argue with them while their down? What a smartass.

6. Give advice if you really know what you’re doing

If you dont, just shut up. Set you foot back and listen more. Most of the times people just want to be heard, not to be fed bullshit toxic positivity crap. The tricky part is to know when to give advice and when to shut up. This needs prudence and wisdom. It will also demonstrate how well you understand them.

7. Its about them

If you want to pull attention to yourself, congratulations, you’re a bitch.