Act of cowardice or courage?
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So today, I’ll be sharing with you what has been on my mind for a while now. You know how it feels to hear things happening to people from afar and then it suddenly happens to someone close to you.
I’ve always heard stories of people committing suicide and of course, we feel “No, suicide isn’t an option”. When I heard the news of someone I know, who decided to take his life because of “seemingly unfair situations”. It took me off guard.
I questioned in my mind why he had to end his life that way, someone who seem to be unflappable and exude so much joy. What changed? Why wasn’t I there at the time he probably needed someone to talk to? Was he a coward by running away from his fears?
In the same way, we keep asking why a person would commit suicide when it seemed like the person had a lot to live for.
Suicide which is an act of intentionally causing one’s death stems majorly from depression, which can be triggered by physical, emotional or sexual abuse, grief, fear of failure or failure, feeling of hopelessness, failed relationship or divorce etc.
People’s inability to see the solution to problems or to cope with challenging life circumstances may lead to them concluding that taking their lives is the way out of a problem, which in a real sense is temporary.
Pain demands to be felt, so let no one lie to you that they know how you feel when they haven’t been through the same situation. It’s okay for you to feel bad or sad, but it’s not okay for you to wallow in self-pity for long.
Your current situation isn’t always a true reflection of who you are, what the future holds for you or how successful you will be. You should always put your best in everything you do, but it doesn’t mean things will come out the way you want them to.
Sometimes, having done your best, life happens, and you have little or no control over it. It’s now up to you to choose how you respond to the situation.
What matters to you now, will it matter in 10 years?
The abuse, academic failure, family issues and several issues do not define who you are. You can’t control certain things, but you are in charge of how you handle it.
It’s fine if you feel you’re the only one in your situation and you want to cry or take time to “detox” or even feel your world is crumbling or crumbled or question why it should be you in that situation.
But no one has it all, everyone has something masked and what makes a difference is a positivity you see when there’s nothing to be positive about, the light you look forward to seeing at the end of the tunnel you are in and the hope you keep when there’s nothing to hope for.
Don’t be blinded by feelings of self-loathe or hopelessness. Yes, not everyone cares, but you will still find a few people who genuinely care about you. And if only you’re willing to share whatever predicament you are going through, they’d be willing to proffer a solution for you.
You were not born to be a coward. You’re the captain, you must be at the wheel, you will chart your course. You can steer your ship for the better.
You can see darkness with your eyes closed, but open your eyes to see the light. Don’t bury yourself in your problems, but choose to rise amidst situations. You are made for more than you can envision. Don’t let life ‘slim fit’ your purpose, you are a seed growing to be that giant tree bearing good fruits.
The question remains, is suicide an act of cowardice or courage? (Kindly use the comment section )
Life is meant to be lived once and the truth is, it’s temporal. Why hurry to leave when we all will leave after all?
With your head held high, stay strong, evolve, explore, grow and LIVE full of joy.
With Love,
Sike Bankz