So to clarify, your argument is that you cannot have expectations or needs from your partner because you didn’t do a full reconnaissance of their capacity of partnership before dating them and they have the right to be emotionally withdrawn or dismissive to you because you moved too fast into a relationship. That’s a completely preposterous statement. Having needs is absolutely something to bring to partners and when partners don’t prioritize the needs of their partners they are terrible partners. To shift the blame of unmet needs onto the person (specifically women) that is existing with their needs unmet because they “should have chosen better” is bad faith bullshit. Emotions and attachment do not work in opposition or under the brain. They are part of reasoning. And because a person didn’t accurately predict that someone could be emotionally available to them is not their fault. It’s the fault of the person going into a relationship who isn’t emotionally available.