How To View Hard Questions

Why looking others in the eye is a good thing.

There is no greater gift or burden than sight. It causes us to confine ourselves within unnecessary details constantly corroding the mind into helplessness. But we can use this gift to pave ways that allow the next generation to be free of these constraints.

My native american friend from college once told me about the rudeness of staring in his culture. Supposedly, a few decades ago, if you stared at his parents it would mean you would want to kill them. Thank goodness that’s no longer the case!

Staring should be viewed as a good thing because it can sometimes mean the difference between “Yes, we would like to work with you” and a “No, f*ck off” from your application processer. Actually, everyone can and will understand how important eye contact is to some folks near the end of their lives. Most people think, “I know I’m scaring them and I don’t want to leave the wrong impression!” But the reality is is that eye contact was the first type of communication humans created to give meaning and to understand each other. I know it can be weird, but how else are we supposed to truly communicate with people we really care about if practice doesn’t start now? Below are some methods I’ve outlined to help you develop just one of many human skills.

Methods

There are many solutions to public speaking and teamwork problems popping up every minute. There are two absolute methods for connecting with others on a deeper level: Third Eye and Virtual Circle.

The Third Eye Method

I developed this method a few months back so that I could engage in healthy argumentation with my mother. Her eyes are impeccable! Anyways, this method involves a lot of practice since it takes concentration and willpower. You start by bending your will to the subject. Then you stare directly above their nose and between their eyes. This action presents your subject with the fact that they now have your full attention. You’re wondering, “Isn’t that insensitive and rude?” But the fact of the matter is that you are giving them what many don’t. That is your soul. This is a good thing because as a result you are not forcing your glare onto her anymore than you would your sister. She interprets your stance as an act of politeness and good will. Sharing is caring. The subject understands your ‘undivided’ glance on her lower forhead. Further on, you will notice that the notion of divide and conquer is a key aspect.

Look > Divide > Conquer > Share

The Virtual Circle Method

I developed this method today. I stared at the woman’s eyes and imagined zooming in so that I could construct a relic of purity within her. Since I did that, I was able to accept her for whatever she was encouraging herself to be. I allowed myself to open the borders of my personality up to her. I tried my best to imagine all that she’s dealt with an open eye. There was no time or worry spent on hiding the underlying impressions society placed on her. I just saw. I only understood. I saw light crack open as her eyelids flapped back and forth. Everyone’s eyes were marred by shadows encased in eternity.

Look > Accept > Zoom > Believe

Using these methods I am able to function the way I wish to in public. They allow me to design my world with light and give me the ability to describe the essence of what I see. There is nothing more necessary.