What Kind of Dominatrix are You?


Domination is personal style and not all Dominatrixes are the same. Are you a Dominatrix who is doing this for money? Are you doing this to feed your urges? Are you doing this because you love it? I find that your motivation is an integral part of your attitude towards your domination and your submissives. For example, if you have a negative attitude towards domination because your don’t like it but you enjoy the tributes, then you aren’t going to be able to develop your style. Instead, you might find yourself burning out rather easily and find your experience to be just that and move on. I have known Dominatrixes on both sides and honestly it’s refreshing to find Dominatrixes that are in love with themselves and who they are, there aren’t many of us. If you find yourself being a Dominatrix who is not happy, I would suggest finding your peace, your happiness. It might be to leave domination, and if so it’ll open your submissive to find a Dominatrix that will enjoy his submissive side and you will find peace; it's a win win.

If you are dominating because you love it, then for the most part your mind will be open to more scenarios, learning your trade and making it more your own. After all, You are the one in charge. You’ll learn that its more than just role-play, its a psycho sexual truth. It may seem confusing the term “psycho sexual truth”, but its the best way to explain that its a way of being not just a corset you put on. When you are true to yourself, you feel the dominance that you bring and your soul eats from your acts and desires that you enact upon your submissives. It's a romance, a dance, that you get to control.

Clothing, is imperative. I did say that its more than just role-play, and it is, but you want to create the appropriate ambience. If you have a session where you are being puritanical and he deserves a rosary in his anus, then should definitely wear a nun uniform or something of the like. Put on music in the background that would hear at a monastery like the gregorian chants. When you do your session you must be creative and think outside the box, as cheesy as that sounds. You can make it a one of a kind experience, its all in your head.

Equipment, can be very flexible. Everything around you can be used in domination. There’s room for all kinds of items in domination. The more you can take yourself and your submissive to your chosen scenario, the more involved you and your submissive will be. Let’s take for example psychology, one of my favorite domination scenarios is having submissive come in and sit in front of my and tell me his wants and desires, I then start to hypnotize him. My room is full with a desk, a bookcase, rug, 2 chairs, a metronome, my computer, a massage table, candles and a pillow. When my submissive walks in, they are in a psychiatrist office. They get excited knowing that I am going to put them under. It wouldn’t have the same effect if it were in some bland room with 2 chairs just sitting in front of each other, the mystique is gone. The internet is a wonderful thing, do your research.

Education, is a must. I’m not saying that you have to go to Dominatrix University. I am saying not to be ignorant. Do your homework, honestly its not that hard. The internet has a wealth of information and honestly I love the smell of books, why not try the library. There are many videos showing all kinds of fetishes, even some new ones. You will find yourself becoming jaded in more that one way. Its ok to be jaded, we are human its in our nature. Being jaded is a way that your mind is telling you what you do and dont like. I would advise to never do anything that you aren’t comfortable with. Its ok to say no.

Do’s and Dont’s. At one point you have to ask yourself, what am I comfortable with. Hopefully, you’ve asked yourself this before you have begun your psycho sexual adventures. They are just that adventures. If you remember the “Choose Your Own Adventure” book series, where you chose which adventure you want to follow; it can compare to an extent. In this adventure series, You get to chose how far you want to go, you chose your submissives, and you are in control. I can’t really say don’t do yada yada, because its all subjective and what I am comfortable with might not be the same for You. My advice is to not do anything you are not comfortable with. I would expect that there is also a respect for life and your submissive as well.

I hope I can shed some light on the psychology behind domination. Remember, it's all in your head.

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