Dating, ugh
Dating is so exhausting!
I don’t know how people date multiple for months straight without a mental break. For the last few months I’ve been using an online dating site and despite much “success” connecting with different people and exchanging numbers, I am still a single woman and I’m surprisingly okay with that.
If anyone would have been worth the time or trouble I suppose I’d be in a happy relationship right now. So since I am not, I can only assume that the many men I’ve met quickly served their purpose, taught their lesson, and continued their search for “love” elsewhere.
While talking to these men I encountered a variety of personalities ranging from the guy you wish would drop to one knee and ask to marry you immediately to the one you wish you would have never given your number to because he was “sweet.” Some I connected with on a personal level and see myself being friends with, others I wish I would have left where I found them so they can get on someone else’s nerves.
At one point I was texting 12 different men throughout the week! Some had similar numbers, same names but not many of them were saved; conversations were being mixed (never names lol) you gotta be smarter than that, but holding all of those conversations was completely draining! I mean, talking about favorite colors/foods/movies/interests with that many people gets aggravating after awhile!
Hell I had to take a break from “meeting people” during my break from relationships!
During this time I discovered I attract the men I don’t like and also the men I don’t need. It’s always the ones who you’ve stalked on social media, dreamt about meeting, and planned out your whole happily ever after life with, who end up being everything you’ve outgrown and need to stay away from. Yet, they are also the best sex partners, have the best personalities, and great conversationalists! However it’s unfortunate that sex is the biggest key player with these men. Sometimes they just end up being creeps and turn you off after one message sent/conversation or they appear to “have it made” on the internet, but in reality they’re just a glorified bum.
I’ve met them all! I’ve given them chances to prove that I’m just crazy and what I’m seeing/hearing is really a joke, but facts win every time! I mean, no one could really suck this bad at a simple conversation…could they? Well, from my experience apparently they can and they do.
The men I have met were always nice, but some were jerks and others were too aggressive. I had this man get upset and really try to argue with me about NOT wanting to come to his house the first time we chilled together. He said, “See that’s whats wrong with this generation today, y’all think that just cause you go to someones house something gotta happen.” Sir, it is 11 o’clock at night, the only thing opened this late is legs and White Castle. I will not be entering your home or anyone else’s home this evening, goodnight. I still think to myself, he could not have been serious.
Another guy was so full of himself he lived in a made up fairyland. He told me that he had his own company of some sort that he wouldn’t specify, he’s in a porn somewhere online, he’s from Houston, TX, has a lot of money and could live anywhere he wants, drive any car, and make his 935sq.ft apartment as nice as he’d like. Now, I must have “Boo boo the fool” written across my forehead if he thought for even a second I would believe such foolery! He was driving around in a beat down 2006 Pontiac Grand Prix, where the passenger seat was broken, now permanently lying in the backseat. Now I don’t have a problem with an old bucket car, at least it’s yours (so you say), but don’t lie about what you could have if you wanted when it’s something you really probably need. Be proud of where you are and what you have and build from there. If you can’t be real with yourself what reason do you have to be real with anyone else?
I have stories for days about my crazy dating life. The point is dating and testing the waters can be exhausting and drain the life out of you. It can easily kill your passion for the opposite sex and make you want to give up on love, don’t! Just give yourself a break. Whether it be two weeks or a year, when you need a break from holding those “get to know you” conversations, take it! Relax, take yourself on dates, surround yourself with friends and family, but most importantly spend time with YOURSELF! You don’t want to jump into anything already mentally, spiritually, and emotionally exhausted.
Take care of you first, get back to yourself, then when you’re ready dangle your feet back in the water.
