Stability. Constancy. Settled.

These words definitely cross an individual’s life at some point or another. In fact, we, as human beings, are trained to achieve these three words. We are socially required to settle and be stable and constant with what we are and what we do.

But the real question is: Can a person ever completely settle? & more importantly, should he?

Let’s take an objective look at this. What is the definition of settling? I would say it differs for each individual. However, the society that we live in has its own, and most of the times,indisputable take on it. It requires a person to get an education that would enable him to get a job or start a business and stick with it. While he or she is doing this, it is a social convention to find “someone” who would become a “better-half”. And once you have found your better half,“settling down” becomes an irrevocable necessity. Settling down is considered to be directly proportional to stability and achieving that is of course considered to be the ultimate goal. And of course, all this needs to be accomplished by certain “socially” defined age!

Now this is an ideal scenario. But when does life ever follow the ideal path! There are only a handful of individuals in this world who have “figured out” everything in their lives. But are they truly “settled”? Based on a social premise, they maybe are. But is that a good thing? There is no right answer here. It’s a belief system. For instance, I believe that if we settle for what we have now, we can’t grow. And that is true for anything that we do in life. From self-improvement to progressing in career or searching for your soul mate, we should never make decisions because of social conventions. Never Settle.

Airport is one of the best places to observe people. You can see all sorts of characters. There are the ones who look like who obviously look settled for just what came their way. Settled in terms of spouse for instance. I know the never settle idea can be easily misconstrued, especially in case of “better half” ;)!!). But who you think you love now may not be true a decade later. It just happens, more often than you would want or expect it to. Just today I observed this couple with a kid. Fighting, arguing about why the kid was bawling away. There was an initial silent treatment between the couple but then they just went at each other as the kid became side-lined and occupied himself completely his watch. So, my question here… Was the love never there or did it just diminish cause it was all a compromise and settlement to begin with? Then there was this other older couple, the husband with a slightly advanced case of Parkinson’s and the wife by his side helping him along. They looked happy, conversing through the silence between them. Maybe they made the right choice. No compromise, hence never settled yet constant.

Yesterday I was watching this movie, The Lunch Box. It spoke volumes about that idea of settling. And that too, settling for and in a rut. Is there an escape after years and years of being stuck? Maybe. Definitely.

Be determined to know yourself. Then and only then you will never have to settle for anything… Anything less than you deserve.