3 ways to get out of your own way

Doug Stewart
Jun 21, 2017 · 4 min read

Excuse me, pardon me, coming through!

This is what I seem to be saying to my Inter-voice on a daily basis. You know, that voice that says, don’t try that, you’re not good enough, they’re going to think this is ridiculous. Yeah, that inner voice.

The more I listen to it the less I accomplish. The less I accomplish the less fulfilled I feel. It becomes a cycle where I end up undermining any chance of success and happiness.

So instead of trying shock therapy to make the voices go away, I think these 3 principles may be a less painful way to stop undermining our happiness and success.

1. Stop stressing

Stress is the achievers word for fear -Tony Robbins

The first time I heard this quote it struck me as odd. I wasn’t sure if I quite agreed with it. But the more I thought about it the more I realized just how true it was. When I feel stressed, it’s almost always because I’m afraid of something. Afraid that I’ll lose a relationship, afraid that I won’t be accepted, afraid that I’ll make a mistake, etc.

With that knowledge I’ve started asking myself this question anytime I feel stressed out,

What is it that I’m most afraid of in this moment?

The answer to that question often helps me take a more rational approach to the issue at hand. Most of the time, I realize the thing that I’m stressing about isn’t that big of a deal or could be solved with a quick conversation.

Sometimes, it is something that’s worth being stressed about and with the insight I get from answering that one simple question I am able to start working for the best outcome possible.

I’ve learned that there are two types of stress. There’s good stress and there’s bad stress.

The distinction for whether stress is good or bad, is not in the circumstance. The distinction is in how we think about and manage the stress that we will inevitably have.

2. Don’t get comfortable being comfortable

Your comfort zone is a lot like your bed. It’s a place of warmth, comfort, solitude, and peace. It’s the place where you go to rest and rejuvenate. It’s not where you should live all the time.

If you want to live a rich & fulfilling life, you must get out of your bed and go experience life.

The same is true with your comfort zone. There are times where we need the warmth and safety that our comfort zone provides. But that’s not where we should live all the time though. We should live just outside our comfort zone. A place where we stay flexible, on our toes, and fully engaged with the world around us.

So every once in a while, run to your comfort zone if you must. But don’t stay long, you have a life to live.

3. Don’t be a jerk

This world has enough jerks. Be something else.

There are plenty of reasons to be negative and there are plenty of people who are more than willing to point out all the negativity.


There’s just as much reason to be positive. In fact, it’s a miracle that you even exist and are reading this right now.

To take this point a step further, take a moment and just put your hand over your heart.

Go ahead , i’ll wait…

Do you feel that? That’s your heartbeat. And every single beat is a gift. You are not doing anything right now to earn it or to deserve it. Yet you have it. It’s a gift.

If you’re willing, you can give that same type of gifts to the world around you. Undeserved and unexplained love, grace and peace with no strings attached.

You are the best chance you have for success & happiness. The way you choose to think about the world around you and interact with it will ultimately determine how happy and successful you become.

Don’t stress — Stay out of your comfort zone — Don’t be a jerk.

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***Grammatical errors & misspellings complements of dyslexia : — )***

Doug Stewart

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Dale Carnegie instructor | TEDx Presenter | Coach | Podcaster | Storyteller — Lives in Raleigh, North Carolina

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