Creating a life of positive momentum

Doug Stewart
Jun 21, 2018 · 4 min read

What if you woke up one morning and realize that you had complete control over your life.

There was nothing you had to do. No obligations. Nothing holding you down or holding you back. Just a blank slate.

What would you do with that blank slate?

Would you re-create the life that you had yesterday or would you create something new?

One of the things I love most about being a coach is helping people realize they have more authority over their life and their outcomes than they give their self credit for.

Many people believe that their choices are limited. They are bound by their circumstances and past decisions. Although there is some truth to that, it’s never the final answer.

We all have two choices:

We can either ride the momentum of our circumstances or we can create our own wave and our own momentum.

If you want to create your own momentum you can’t do it passively. You can’t just think about it, or hope for it, or even pray about it. Do you have to DO something.

Here are a couple of ideas:

Create space for contemplation:

Our minds are the first place that we create our reality. So no matter how busy you are or what you have going on it’s imperative that you create space every day to contemplate who you are becoming.

It’s as easy as sitting down for five minutes without technology, without a notebook, without any outside distractions and simply answering this question,

Who would I like to be today and what characteristics do I need to exhibit to accomplish that?

Create a wardrobe

Just like you go into your closet every day and choose what to put on, also consider making that a place where you choose what version of yourself you will “put on”.

As an example, here’s a picture in from my closet

Every morning when I walk into my closet to choose what I’m going to wear, I also make a conscious choice to put on these characteristics. I physically put my hand on each of them and say,

Today, I will be loving.

Today, I will be joyful.

Today, I will be peaceful.

Today, I will be patient.

Today, I will be kind.

Today, I will be gentle.

Today, I will be self-controlled.

Some mornings I wake up and throw on workout gear because I’m going to work out. Other days, I put on slacks and a button up because I have a business meeting. Everyday, these are characteristics that I want to consciously and deliberately put on no matter where I am or who I am with.

I find this practice to be helpful in reminding me of the person I want to (choose to) be.

And sometimes, I spilled something on my nice clean button up and ruin my outfit. When that happens, I take a moment to mourn the mistake clean it up the best I can and then move on.

I do the same thing when I mess up one of the characteristics that I’ve chosen to put on for the day. When I am unloving or unkind or inpatient, I simply cleaned it up the best I can apologize for the mistake and move on.

Tomorrow, I will have a new opportunity to put on fresh clothes and fresh characteristics and go out and try again.

Connect mind body and spirit, every day.

It seems as if we never turn our minds off. There’s a constant barrage of rings, notifications, and messages.

When was the last time you can remember deliberately turning “it” off?

I found one of the things that gives me the most momentum is making sure that I am focusing on the things that help me keep my mind sharp.

My body and my spirit.

A few ways that you might consider doing the same is finding 5 to 10 minutes every day to stretch or move your body in someway.

Depending on your health and how much physical activity you’re used to that may mean a long run, a short walk or maybe just trying to stand more then you sit.

It doesn’t matter where you start, what matters is that you start.

And when (not if) you mess up, simply notice it, make the adjustment, and start again.

Finally, take care of your spirit.

Prayer, meditation, spending time with someone you love, or doing something that you love can all be ways to take care of your spirit.

This isn’t about going to church, this is finding opportunities to refresh and rejuvenate the deepest parts of who you are.

For me, some of those things include paddle boarding, skateboarding, quiet contemplation, and spending time with my wife and daughter.

The things that rejuvenate you may be completely different in a good place to determine what those are is in your time of quiet contemplation.

So, don’t just be a victim of your circumstances being tossed around like a ship at sea.

Decide, plan, act.

You are the captain of your ship. You can create your own momentum. And when you feel like life gets to be too much just remember,

Sometimes, God calms the storm. And sometimes, God calms the sailor

Here’s to your momentum!


Hey! Thanks for reading. This content came about as I was creating a talk that I will be giving at Oasis in Holly Springs, North Carolina on July 8, 2018. If you’re interested, CLICK HERE for details.

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* All miss-spellings and grammatical errors are complements of dyslexia 🤪

Doug Stewart

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Dale Carnegie instructor | TEDx Presenter | Coach | Podcaster | Storyteller — Lives in Raleigh, North Carolina

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