This is how you impact the world

It was my junior year of high school, and I found myself in the boy’s locker room with my teammates. We were discussing all the new curse words we had discovered over the past summer. Not only what the words were but also what they meant and how many different ways we could use them.

My buddy who was sitting beside me had just launched the most fabulous F-bombs I had ever heard in the most interesting context I have ever heard it. That’s when Rodney, (a Junior) walked into the locker room.

As if to catch the word as it was coming out of his mouth (before it got to Rodney’s ears) my buddy began to apologize to Rodney. He told Rodney that he was sorry for saying that word and that he did not know that Rodney was about to enter the locker room. Rodney looked at him shrugged his shoulders and said, “It’s all good man.”

I saw the same scenario play out time after time after time with Rodney. I never could quite understand why people wouldn’t curse in front of Rodney or Gossip or Bully or any other thing that seemed unkind or unwholesome. For some reason, people acted differently when Rodney was around. But not just differently, a good kind of different. People seem to become the best version of themselves when he was in the room.

Even though I never saw him correct anyone, or even snitch, people responded to him.

I acted differently as well, and I never understood why until I took the Dale Carnegie Program for the first time.

What I learned in the Dale Carnegie Program with something that Rodney showed me in practicality all through high school.

Our behavior impacts the behavior of everyone around us, whether we know it or not. When we hold ourselves to a high standard we compel others to also hold themselves to a high standard.

That’s why we say that we use Mr. Carnegie’s principles on ourselves for the benefit of other people.

(CLICK HERE for a list of all 30 principles)

Because when we do, not only do we get a better outcome but it calls those around us to a higher standard. A standard that gets better results that cause less stress. That open us up to deeper more for filling relationships and ultimately, happier lives.

Be the change that you want to see in the world.

Our only hope for a better world, a better work environment, a better family life, and a happier existence is to become the best version of ourselves.

And when we keep that as the primary focus, we begin to make this world a better place for ourselves, for those around us, and the ones who are to come.

Be the change.

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