Doug Stewart
May 22, 2017 · 2 min read

Every week, I have multiple coaching calls with people who are worried.

Worried about the future, worried about the past, worried about relationships, circumstances, and the possibility of things not going their way.

Let me assure you, I do the same thing. I have to check myself, my attitude, and my perspective when it comes to worry.

I constantly find myself asking,

“When the best time to freak out about this.”

It turns out, that it doesn’t pay to worry until it does. It may seem strange, but it’s true.

I Am an Old Man and Have Known a Great Many Troubles, But Most of Them Never Happened — Mark Twain

When we worry about things before it’s time to worry about things and we put ourselves at a extreme disadvantage.

Here’s how to know when to freak out.

When the event is actually happens:

It doesn’t matter, until it does. So, spend your time focusing on the problems at hand. That’s why Jesus said to not worry about tomorrow because today has enough trouble of it’ own.

If you can actually do something about it:

If you focus 100% of your time on the things that you can actually impact, you will be happier.

If you can’t impacted it, don’t let it impact you.

If it actually matters:

The question I commonly asked myself is, “Will this matter in 10 years?”

If the answer is no, I have a pretty darn good reason to not worry about it.

The truth is, not only do we worry about stuff that won’t matter in 10 years, we worry about stuff that won’t matter in 10 minutes. Focus on the things that matter, forget about the things that don’t.

There will be plenty of reasons for you to freak out in this life, make them count.

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All misspellings complements of dyslexia 😜.

Doug Stewart

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Dale Carnegie instructor | TEDx Presenter | Coach | Podcaster | Storyteller — Lives in Raleigh, North Carolina

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