You are becoming who you’ll be

If we are going to have any hope of a life filled with purpose and legacy, we must wake up every day and face the discomfort that waits for us outside of the warm blanket we call our comfort zone.

Having a comfort zone is not a bad thing unless you misuse it. When we get weary, our comfort zone is there to give us sanctuary. It’s a place where we can go to recharge, refresh and renew our spirit.

Your comfort zone is where you go for vacation. You weren’t created to live there.

If we are going to be alive, we might as well live, right? Personally, I have never once experienced growth inside my comfort zone. I only grow when life punches me in the mouth or when I actively choose to do something that scares me. And both of those scenarios happen outside of my comfort zone.

I have come to understand the truth in Seth Godin’s words,

Safe is risky and risky is safe. — SG

When I choose to play it safe, I am really risking everything. My relationships, my impact on the world, my heart, my authenticity and my voice.

But when I risk, I fully live. I chose the hard thing and there is always a reward on the other side. I risk being vulnerable, I risk being rejected, I risk showing up and being the truest version of myself. I do the hard thing. On purpose.

Why? Because Hard things break hard things. If I want to continue to have breakthroughs in my life, I have to be willing to do the hard thing to break the hard thing

The lie we tell ourselves is, “If I show up without a mask on, they won’t accept me”. The truth is, Our only chance at real acceptance is to show up naked. No mask, no posturing, no faking. Just show up. (Don’t actually show up naked, it’s just a metaphor)

The amazing thing is when we are willing to just show up (blemishes and all) we find the real self-acceptance. It’s the hiding that makes us unattractive to ourselves and others.

How you think about your comfort zone dictates how willing you are to step outside of it into real life. And how we step out determines who we will become.

Are you becoming the person you want to be?


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