Ela Darling: The Origin Story of a Librarian Pornstar | Sex Dork

Doug Elfman
Mar 14, 2019 · 8 min read
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Ela Darling might be the only pornstar with a Ted Talk. She was a real librarian — with a master’s degree — when she went into porn and co-created virtual reality sex camming. Watch our interview, or scroll down for the best bits in our abbreviated edit.

Ela Darling: I have the Dewey Decimal number for Harry Potter on my back.

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Origin Story: How She Got Into Porn

‘So go ahead and threaten to leak the naked photos of me. Here, want some more? Fuck off.’

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How She Fucked The Sex Shame Away

‘The porn industry seemed really abusive, and probably all those girls are victims, anyway. But if that’s the case, why do they all seem so happy? So maybe I’m wrong?’

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Several years ago, if you’d asked me, I would tell you, ‘I would much rather fuck someone on stage than have to talk to people.’

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Insights Of A Sex Entrepreneur on Female Power

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Nobody ever asks their fucking barista, like: ‘Is this very empowering for you?’ I was never asked as a librarian, like: ‘Do you feel super empowered checking these books out right now?’

Sure, you can find feminism in it, you can find empowerment in it, but you can find that in a lot of places. Just let me do my fucking job, you know?

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She Has Almost No Time For Friends Anymore

I have a little VR robot camera in my living room that’s on 24 hours a day. I do an hourlong broadcast every night in my studio. I’m working always. So I really don’t see my friends that much. Which is a bummer. I haven’t played ‘Dungeons & Dragons’ in like two months.

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Virtual Reality Porn Is Good For People

I read a study — take it with a grain of salt — that implied that loneliness can be as bad for your health as smoking cigarettes.

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Sex Robots Also Alleviate Loneliness

They offered to make one of me, just a one-off, so I can stick it in the front seat and drive in the HOA lane, I guess? Have this weird humanoid in my house forever that I’m paying rent on?

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Librarians are fucking punk rock

And librarians have gone to fucking jail for your right to consume information. The FBI even noted that radical militant librarians were making their jobs really hard, when they came into libraries and demanded patron records, and lists of people who checked out certain books.

‘Uh, actually, shove it. No. No, we’re not doing that.’

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