Build Meaningful Relationships with Facebook Dating

Dr. Paulette Sherman
2 min readJan 24, 2019


As a psychologist and dating coach, I’m excited about the new platform of Facebook Dating! Since Facebook is already the go-to spot for many people to maintain long-lasting connections, I think it’ll be a natural place to form dating matches. Facebook has said that this upcoming platform will be about creating ‘meaningful relationships,’ not just hookups.

By meaningful relationships, I mean that daters will try to get to know the other person and to develop a deeper connection around who that other person is, beyond sex. This is not a judgment of hookups or casual relationships. But many daters report wanting a dating space that feels more community-oriented, organic, respectful and meaningful than what they’ve already tried. Based on that assumption or reported desire, here are a few reasons that I anticipate that this Facebook Dating platform may be advantageous in this way:

1- Facebook has Massive Data with Which to Match You–

Most people have been on Facebook a long while and they have liked things, joined groups, promoted causes, commented and shared status reports about the things that are important to them. Although we don’t know Facebook’s secret sauce or algorithm, it seems plausible that with all that data and resources their data science team will develop the ability to create meaningful matches.

2- Facebook Dating is Looking to Create Meaningful Relationships –

This intention was shared by the Facebook team. They’re looking to create a mindful space that focuses on authentic dating and meaningful relationships instead of hookups. Some initial ways that Facebook Dating will do this is to bypass just swiping yes and no to prospects and to have users scroll down past the profile and pictures of a prospect so that they can take in the other important information about who they really are. Then they can consider it before making a decision instead of just acting on impulse or superficial first impressions.

3- You Can Use Interests & Events to Meet Like-Minded Singles–

Sometimes online dating can feel stilted but Facebook Dating will offer the ability to check out other singles at an Event that you’re going to (if you both choose to unlock that feature), which feels more organic. Also, you’ll have the ability to see which singles follow the same causes and interests as you (if you both unlock that feature). This can promote a heart-based connection and deeper conversations from the start.

I’m also including this video below which gives a few more tips about how the Facebook Dating platform will facilitate Mindful Dating:

I look forward to sharing many more advantages to Facebook Dating with you soon. Learn more in my new book, Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to Soulmate.



Dr. Paulette Sherman

Psychologist, Relationship coach, podcast host of, ‘The Love Psychologist’ and author of ‘‘Dating from the Inside Out.’ @kpaulet