Romantic, Relaxing Experiences for Your Valentine

After the holidays, the increasingly cold temperatures and upcoming snow storms you and your date can probably use some warmth, relaxation and an extra dose of love. Soon Valentine’s day will be here, a day for lovers. My husband and I tried out a variety of NY spa experiences and massages last year so I can offer some ideas. If you don’t live in the NYC area you can look for similar ideas near you. Enjoy!

A Floatation tank is a lightless, soundless tank inside which a person floats in skin temperature salt water. Today they’re used for meditation and relaxation. Researchers say that floatation may aid creativity and can be very relaxing. Avid meditators say that it’s an easy, effective way to reach a deep state of meditation. I went to LaCasa Day Spa in Manhattan to try it. I entered a large bathroom with a floatation tank and an adjacent shower. The floatation tank had a black sliding door so the light wouldn’t get in. There was a shallow amount of water filled with Epsom salt so that you can float. I wore a bathing suit but many go in nude. You’re in there alone and once you close the black bath door, no one can see inside. I floated, with arms overhead and it was a deeply spiritual experience because it felt like I was in a cosmic womb, completely supported without distractions or demands. How often have you had an hour of time completely to yourself with no stimuli or time pressure in complete silence? I had to go to work afterward but I felt crystal clear and relaxed for the whole day and at least the following one. I felt particularly rested, awake and centered. I also tried a floatation at Araaragot Center for Harmonic Consciousness in Brighton Beach. If you go there you can explore the Russian restaurants and walk by the beach near Coney Island. You can gift your honey a floatation experience or both try it and take turns. It will be a unique experience that you’ll remember!

Candlelit pools feel like a decadent experience. Aire Baths is a gorgeous space. There were candles lining the stairs and all along the walls of the dimly lit large darkened room which looked like a monastery. There were a variety of pools: a floatatarium of salt water that was 100 degrees Fahrenheit, a warm water pool which was 97 degrees Fahrenheit, a hot water pool that was 102 degrees Fahrenheit, a propeller jet bath that was 97 degrees Fahrenheit and two cold water pools, one 61 degrees and the other 66 degrees Fahrenheit. There was also a steam room with aromatherapy and a marble rest area with tea and water. Beautiful relaxing music played and we had two hours (before the bell rang) to try out the baths together. It felt like a romantic, spiritual experience that bonded us and we both felt so refreshed afterward. Certain times they have an acoustic concert accompanying the baths and other times they offer yoga classes with your bath ritual. It is a romantic date experience you won’t forget!

We went to Cynergy Spa in Brooklyn for an hour-long couples massage package. They gave us tea and hot cloth, in their reception area and then led us through a hallway, lined with candles, into a large lovely couples room. The room had a jacuzzi, shower, and two massage tables for side by side massages. You can take a 30-minute jacuzzi together and then get side by side massages. We loved it. The package also includes chocolate and champagne afterward. It’s a very special outing to cherish each other. You may have something similar near you if you aren’t in the NY area.

Jet Baths and saunas are so relaxing! Our date night at Spa Castle in Queens was relaxing and romantic. We paid $40 each for admission at the time and were given a uniform of shorts and a t-shirt and a plastic watch type that had a number on it. It opened your locker and allowed you to purchase food, drinks, and services without carrying around your wallet. We donned our bathing suits, uniforms and explored. We went to the roof deck to try the baths and sat there looking up at the sky. There were two large warm pools with jets on the rooftop, designed with aqua jets from Korea and Japan. There were also many saunas including a Jade Sauna, a Far Infrared sauna and a Gold Sauna, plus others. You can spend several hours there. Afterward, we felt very relaxed and connected. My husband thanked me because he had such a good time. There are also a variety of extra services, like massages. So, check it out for ‘me day’ or take your sweetie with you! You can eat there as well. There’s also a Spa Castle in Manhattan.

Mermaid Spa is a Russian Banya with three Russian steam rooms, a dry sauna, a Turkish bath, two tile pools that are machine-fed with chopped ice and a circular Jacuzzi. Admission was $40 per person when we went and they also had a restaurant there. It also offers Swedish and deep tissue massage in addition to traditional Russian massage. It feels like you are in another country. Try something new together, spend a few hours there and enjoy!

If you want to try an inexpensive option than you can create a romantic candlelit rose-petal bath for your honey or even a couples bath. You can pick up a copy of my book, The Book of Sacred Baths for a variety of different couples baths that include meditations and different essential oils you can include. The book can be another gift to your Valentine and it’s one that will keep giving with 52 bath rituals that will provide many warm relaxing at home date nights going forward.

Hope you enjoy it!

LaCasa Day Spa

Places to Float near you:

Cynergy Spa

Ancient Aire Baths

Spa Castle and

Mermaid Spa

Araaragot Center for Harmonic Consciousness

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a psychologist and author. She wrote the upcoming, The Book of Sacred Baths,’ published by Llewellyn and is the author of “Dating from the Inside Out,” published by Atria books and the upcoming book, ‘Facebook Dating: from 1st Date to SoulMate.’ She has a private psychotherapy practice in Manhattan and does dating coaching by phone. Learn more at

Psychologist, Relationship coach, podcast host of, ‘The Love Psychologist’ and author of ‘‘Dating from the Inside Out.’ @kpaulet