Is Physical Touch The Most Important Love Language?

While everyone has their own preferred love language and all are equally important in that sense, there is another sense in which physical touch is the most important. This is because, unlike every other love language, you are not able to get your physical touch love language met by other people in your life. When partners with a lower physical touch need minimize their partner’s need for physical affection, including sex, cuddling, kissing, etc, they are leaving their partner in an impossible situation where there is nowhere else to turn.

Many women in particular minimize the importance of physical touch, including sex, to their husbands. Yet, they would never minimize the importance of a hug or a cuddle to a child who prefers and seeks out those forms of love and connection. The difference is that their husband has even less ability to get his physical needs met than their child does, who can usually get a hug from their other parent. The partner with a physical touch love language that isn’t being touched can start to feel desperately lonely and unfulfilled, because there is no way to get touch or certainly sexual touch from anyone but their spouse, who doesn’t want to give it.

Words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service can all be obtained from other friends and family members, or even paid help. Physical…