What Men Think about Sex Versus Reality
As a couples therapist, I see quite a great deal of miscommunication about sex between partners. And this is in the rare scenario where there is any communication at all. Generally, each partner thinks that the way they think about sex is obvious to the other, and nothing could be further from the truth. Here I come, like a psychology-wielding superhero, to vanquish common misunderstandings about sex for once and for all. Really. Also, I create world peace. But seriously, this post may at least function as something to email to your husband to show him how normal you are, and/or to start an honest and open discussion about your sex life.
Here are the most common incorrect assumptions that men make about sex, with my rebuttals after each.
1- Frequent and strong sexual desire and thoughts should be natural and normal for all people in long-term relationships.
Frequent and strong sexual desire and sexual thoughts are natural for normal for SOME PEOPLE in long-term relationships. These people are usually either men, or women who feel close, relaxed, and attractive, or who are in a new and exciting relationship. Note the lack of qualifiers after the subset “men.” Note all the qualifiers after the subset “women.” I am not saying women…
