Some of my posts are more theoretical than others. This one is not about attachment or imago theory. It is just pragmatic and stems from many years of experience as a therapist and even more years of experience as a woman. If you are trying to get your marriage back…

Reader Snooping Sally writes: Is my boyfriend still in love with his ex? I have been dating a great guy for a year and a half, and he moved into my condo 6 months ago. I knew going in that he was divorced (for five years) and has an eight…

My husband cheated on me while we were engaged (with a married woman at his work), then he cheated again while I was pregnant with my son last year. I’m still living under the same roof as him mainly because I don’t have a place to go. He is a…

I have many clients in relationships, in all stages of commitment: dating, living together, or married. But all of these people have one thing in common: when they have issues with their partners, they tend to wonder whether they are with the “right” person, or if there is “someone better…

Since many people told me that my article on knowing if you’re the “difficult” one in the relationship resonated with them, I thought I would expand into the territory of knowing if you need to have the power in your relationship. Overall, this fits with my larger theme of helping…

Since a common search to get to my page is “how to tell your husband you’re not happy,” and then a bunch of people don’t understand that this post is satire, I figured I would write a real post about this issue. Many people want to tell their husbands or…

Reader Scared writes, My husband and his brother (who has Asperger’s and lives with us) grew up devastatingly poor, neglected, and they both ended up in foster care. I believe this background caused my husband a number of issues, including an intense fixation on living as cheaply as possible. This…

Many men wish that their wives were more adventurous and less inhibited in bed. They want their bedroom to be an erotic escape, where both partners share and play out fantasies. This is an understandable goal, especially for people with high libidos, and it happens for some lucky couples even…

Reader Turned On By Gay Porn writes, I’m a 45 year old professional male married with kids. My wife and I lead a normal/conventional comfortable life, go to church on Sundays, stay physically fit, and are both attractive. About 5 years ago I began having fantasies about women (any women…