We need to raise more men who listen.
Why? To change the ratio of toxic masculinity to men who drive positive change. As a feminist, I am inspired by the #metoo movement and the growing numbers and volume of women’s and girls’ voices. As a man, a father, a husband, and a Psychologist who has worked with boys and men for two decades, I know how challenging and confusing this new feminist wave can be for men and boys.
While events like the Women’s March give women and girls actions to take (e.g., speak up, vote, get more involved in politics, speak truth to power, etc.), there is not “call to action” (CTA) for men. I would like to offer my own CTA based on my knowledge and experience working with parents (and boys and men).
The bottom line: we need more men who listen to…
- resolve conflicts by taking the time to understand the other person’s point of view, empathize with the fears and frustration that can fuel the conflict, and work toward a win-win result
- respect people in situations where they may have less power, including students (children and teens) in school and women and people of color in many workplaces
- invite diversity and broaden teams of leaders
- make decisions (after gathering all the necessary facts) that expand future options, bring people on board, and inspire others to take action
How do we get there?
You can read my initial thoughts here.
Dr. Robert Zeitlin is a Positive Psychologist who can’t help but see Wonder Women everywhere he turns. Robert is dedicated to helping working moms (the strongest superheroes among us) upgrade from jobs that suck them dry to careers that feed their souls… and families. His one-to-one program It’s Your Turn launches in early 2019.