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When China loosened restrictions on social movement and people could finally leave their homes, there was a spike in women filing for divorce. According to one woman interviewed, she didn’t “want to endure anymore. We’ve agreed to get a divorce, and the next thing is to find lawyers.” (China’s Divorce Spike Is a Warning to Rest of Locked-Down World, Bloomberg Business, March 31, 2020).

She fought constantly with her out-of-work spouse through two months in isolation over too little money, too much screen time, and his lack of effort with housework and child care.

This week, The New York Times…

We can ask “Who is it for?” to reach a specific audience. Today I ask this question as an advocate for kids.

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Today is the anniversary of the Parkland Massacre.

This morning, I heard a dad ask how to respond to his five-year-old’s questions about an active shooter drill she had to do in school.

These drills are doing more harm than good, freaking our kids out but not making them much safer. …

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You aren’t just raising a child. You are preventing colon cancer. You are paving the way to an Ivy League education.

Face it: before you get out of bed in the morning, you hoist the weight of the world on your shoulders. As a parent, your job is to save the universe.

How do you handle all that pressure? Before you close this up to get back to preparing that perfect, organic, gluten-free, Instagram-ready lunch for your kids, I have a little suggestion to make life a whole lot better:

You need to back the fuck off.

I am pulling out a post-it and scribbling you a…

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We need to raise more men who listen.

Why? To change the ratio of toxic masculinity to men who drive positive change. As a feminist, I am inspired by the #metoo movement and the growing numbers and volume of women’s and girls’ voices. As a man, a father, a husband, and a Psychologist who has worked with boys and men for two decades, I know how challenging and confusing this new feminist wave can be for men and boys.

While events like the Women’s March give women and girls actions to take (e.g., speak up, vote, get more involved in…

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The residents of Paradise, California returned to their homes earlier this month after the state’s most disastrous and deadly wildfire nearly wiped their entire town off the map.

The police in Paradise had to call in anthropologists to dig through the ashes of November’s devastating wildfire.

Why anthropologists?

The intense heat generated by the recent Camp Fire in Northern California didn’t just obliterate buildings and possessions. Teeth and bones didn’t survive. It burned so much hotter than past wildfires that recovery teams needed DNA analysis to identify the dead.

Weather patterns have changed. Records are being broken for the frequency and intensity…

David Hogg is one of the students of Marjory Stoneman Douglas High, in Parkland, Florida, who started the Never Again movement, to advocate for gun control, after a mass shooting at their school. (photograph courtesy of The New Yorker and Jonathan Drake/Reuters)

Change is sweeping across this country. The energy from the first Women’s March in January 2017 fueled The Resistance movement and opened a space for women’s voices to speak up about sexual harassment, launching #metoo.

These movements continue to grow and lend energy to each other. They are not receding. If you want evidence, check out the number of women who are marching into politics. Emily’s List is supporting over 25,000 women with a desire to run for public office, an explosion of 25X in 2018.

The next movement is growing before our eyes. In less than a week since…

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I am fighting my way back through the weeds of my desperation and helpless feelings to find the words. I am propelled by the message that has been pulling at my heart.

It is hard work. I don’t know how to process the senseless loss of life that took place less than 24 hours ago in Parkland, Florida in yet ANOTHER school shooting. I am really not feeling right. Not at all.

Then I read this tweet from Michael Ian Black that lit the way.

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Six minutes. I have six minutes to say what I want to say. I am disciplined with my time and, in six minutes, I need to stop writing and get ready for my day.

Being disciplined is hard work. There are plenty of obstacles that my brain throws in the way to keep me from keeping promises like this to myself. You deserve to stay up late and eat a snack. You don’t have any ideas worth sharing. You are going to be late. You should check Facebook. And my favorite: that itch in your brain that you are forgetting…

Don’t make resolutions for the new year.

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(What my brain tells me every December:) don’t make resolutions! you are just setting yourself up for failure.

Last December I was forced to think differently. Working overtime to launch my coaching program, I kicked up so much dust that I was spinning myself in circles. I felt lost. I was making myself crazy. By the end of the month, I felt dizzy and I NEEDED it to stop.

I committed to stop chasing every new idea for 30 days, all of January, like a mental fast. It worked really well. I was able to quiet my mind and get…

UPGRADE your Thanksgiving tradition. Instead of sharing the one thing for which you are thankful, add two more ingredients and time travel.

Here is a new-and-improved version of the giving-thanks tradition:

It’s called Brag-Desire-Gratitude.

This gratitude game doubles as a mindfulness practice because it helps you time travel, from past to future and back to the here and now.

Three simple steps:

Step 1: BRAG about something you did that makes you feel proud.
Step 2: State a DESIRE for something you want to happen in the future.
Step 3: Say one thing for which you are GRATEFUL.

This is a secret mindfulness exercise because each…

Dr. Robert Zeitlin

Dad, husband, Positive Psychologist, author of "Laugh More, Yell Less," co-host of "I Am The Worst Parent Ever" podcast, TEDx talk “Embrace Your Superpowers”

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