Society places a great deal of emphasis on how we should act and who we should be. Many times, we follow others and what they are doing rather than focusing on developing ourselves. Years and years can go by until you come to the realization that you have absolutely no idea who you are or what you want to be doing with your life. This can be especially true for those who are suffering from a mental illness or for those who are battling addiction. When you lose the desire to take care of yourself and your life, it’s easy to lose yourself. Luckily, the process of rediscovering yourself is almost as easy as losing oneself.
Step 1. Figure out where you are now
The first thing that you have to do is figure out where you are at this point in your life. Write down everything that you like and dislike. Then, dig into the deeper topics, such as aspirations, religion, and morals. Don’t worry, the person that you are now isn’t necessarily the person that you’re going to be in the future. Once you’ve established who you are in the present, you can begin to figure out which parts of your life you want to change and which parts you would like to keep.
Step 2. Develop a plan
You can’t successfully move forward with anything unless you have specific goals and a plan for how to reach those goals. Now that you’ve identified who you are, start creating a plan on how to change that person. Let’s say that you’ve picked up the habit of ignoring the mess in your household and you want to stop that habit. Develop a plan of action to successfully stop that habit. It could be throwing away one item daily until the clutter is completely removed. It could be creating a chore sheet that you will remain dedicated to for the rest of your days. It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it brings you closer to the person that you want to be.
Step 3. Continuously examine yourself
The discovery of oneself is not the same as the discovery of a continent or a star. You’re going to be changing constantly as you grow and experience new things. When you think you’ve finally understood yourself and have become the person that you want to be, that’s when you need to reevaluate your life. Go back to the first step and start the process again. You’ll come to realize that there might be new beliefs or habits that weren’t there the first time you began the discovery process.
Most importantly, you can figure out who you are at any point in your life. If you feel lost, you are never too old or too young to start again.