ANYTHING WORTH DOING IS WORTH DOING POORLY: A lesson from Mr. Rubik and his cube.
Recently I decided I would try to do something I had once committed to believing I would never be able to do.
Solve that stupid cube!
I had two choices (as we all do when learning something new)
- I can either learn it on my own through lots and lots of trial and error
2. I can get someone to show me how it’s done.
I chose #2.
This is where the stories came flowing like a wild tornado in my head.
“Well that’s not going to work. How can I learn it if someone is just going to do it for me? How can I possibly get to understand it if all I am doing is learning the algorithms instead of understanding how the pieces work? BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH…. BLAH!”
So I gave up my stories for a minute and just went to YouTube.
I copied what they did, followed the algorithms and solved the 1st 2 layers.
The stories came blowing again like a madman this time.
“Well that doesn’t count! I’m only copying! I haven’t actually learned anything. I suck at this! My brain just doesn’t work that way.”
Then the most evil of all stories. The one that I fear the most.
“It’s ok. Not a big deal.”
What did I do?
I remembered the lessons I learned while trying to be a better father and tried again.
This time I thought I would see what would happen if I tried to solve the 1st layer on my own without help.
It was awkward, took a little bit, then suddenly I realized. I had solved the 1st layer.
All by myself. No help.
I actually learned how that layer worked!
I was shocked, happy and feeling invincible.
Because I realized that my belief on how long it would take me to learn how to do this went from a very long time to a very short time.
I will learn how to solve this thing completely on my own in far less time then I had anticipated.
If I am going to have something I have never had before I will have to learn something new.
This requires me to be ok with getting help and really doing it poorly. I will learn faster, more effectively and ultimately create more opportunities then I could have ever imagined.
What if I applied this lesson to connecting with people and being better at creating relationships?
What will I have to do?
How about make phone calls to people I know and just say, “Hello. How are you doing? or I was thinking of you and I just wanted to see how life was going for you”
Then being ok with how awkward it’s going to be. People you talk to will help.
One day you will realize that people aren’t scary. They are just like you.
Scared, prideful, desiring more, doubtful of themselves, and ultimately needing connection.
What other areas of our lives have we allowed the stories in our heads to prevent us from being ok with just being bad at something?
What stories are we telling ourselves all along the way?
If you have a burning desire to have something then it is yours to claim.