STOP going after what you want

I have an important reminder for you this week:

You don’t need to go out and find what you desire… you need to BE it.

So many times our ego mind will trick us into thinking the answer is outside of us.

I need money! I better start seeking and struggling and striving for it.

I want a relationship! I better go chasing after partners and get super attached to anyone who comes into my world.

I want love and praise! I better be on my best behaviour and dazzle everyone around me with my social masks and facades.

I want a slimmer body! I better begin counting every calorie and punishing my body into changing.

The truth is you don’t have to chase down money or partners or love or health.

You need to start EMBODYING that which you seek. This is always STEP ONE to making changes in your life.

How would you feel if you were already wealthy and prosperous?

How would you feel if you were already in a loved-up relationship?

How would you feel if you were already slim and energised?

How would you think? Walk? Speak? Act? What kind of things would you be doing on a daily basis?

This is the key to change and attracting ANYTHING you desire.

If you want prosperity, be prosperous NOW.

If you want love, be in love with yourself and your life NOW.

If you want a beautiful body, feel slim and beautiful NOW.

The Universe takes its cue from you. Your outer reality is a reflection of your inner world.

Your subconscious mind also takes its cue from you. Begin to teach it a new truth and it will begin to naturally act in amazing mind-blowing ways. You will stop self-sabotaging yourself on your way to the money/relationship/self-love/body of your dreams.

The second you feel a desperate, clingy, needy energy inside your body because you really really want your goal but you are painfully aware that you don’t have it yet, STOP. Take a deep breath. Surrender. Let it go.

Remind yourself that your number one priority is to feel and act and believe like you have what you desire. Live as if your dreams are already here. And they will come.

When you do this, your life will take care of itself. You will be led to the right people, circumstances, ideas and opportunities. You will be supported by life because you have begun supporting yourself.

So how can you BE the person who has your dreams this week, my friend?

Elyse is a writer, life coach and happiness teacher at She teaches people to connect with their soul, create their dreams and expand their happiness. For updates and inspiration, sign up now.