Remember This When You Get A Second Chance

Image for post
Image for post

A mistake can be a small thing. Or it can be a devastating thing. One that can change your life in an instant.

The thing is, many times we don’t see the mistake coming until it is too late. Then we have made it and we start paying the price. We begin to experience the consequences for having made it.

But this post is not about the mistake. We will talk more about that in a future post. This post is about:


“Because this is what I believe — that second chances are stronger than secrets. You can let secrets go. But a second chance? You don’t let that pass you by.”
Daisy Whitney

There is nothing like a second chance. A Mulligan. Do Over.

A second chance is like dying, and being brought back to life. It is like you are drowning, having gone down for the third time.

Your lungs filling with salt water, the air replaced with salty stinging liquid, your consciousness slowly slipping away, replaced by a cold, black void, and then…

A hand pulls you up out of the deep, and you sputter, cough, and breathe life-giving air again.

A bit dramatic?

I agree, but this is what it felt like to me when I committed the biggest mistake of my life. I experienced the consequence of a 4 year prison sentence, and at the end, was pulled out of the abyss to be given a second chance.

So, after having made a mistake of the magnitude that could have devastated and ruined my life, I share with you 5 powerful aspects about life-saving second chances.

Experience the Zen of Second Chances

1. Second Chances are a Precious Blessing

Recognize and treat a second chance like you would a precious and rare opportunity that did not have to happen to you, but did. When my second chance came, I was truly humbled and grateful for the opportunity.

I felt blessed. My actions were like that of a blessed man, and in feeling this way, there was no way I could have taken it for granted.

2. Don’t Squander Second Chances

Take every advantage of a Second Chance. Use it in the spirit which it was given. I squandered many “first” opportunities. This is why I was in a position to receive a second chance at all.

How could I possibly squander another opportunity to do what I should have done the first time? Some people do just that! I met many while in prison.

3. Run With Your Second Chance

Be ready to execute. Do not hesitate. Do not walk. Run. Take the Second Chance by the horns and make the most out of it that you possibly can.

My “first” second chance while I was in a half-way house for 6 months, was a job at $12 per hour. I treated that opportunity like I did six figure executive jobs of my past. I ran as fast and far as I could with that second chance.

4. One Second Chance Breeds Another

Be prepared for additional opportunities that WILL come your way. These are the Waves of Second Chances that can follow your first Second Chance.

I can’t tell you how many people stepped forward after that initial Second Chance and gave me opportunities that were just as big a blessing and just as precious as the first.

If I hadn’t been looking and ready, some of them may have passed me by.

5. Never Forget Your “Original Sin”

Dwelling on the past is not healthy. What’s done is done. Time to move on. But ignoring and not learning from it is equally if not more unhealthy.

The fact is, a Second Chance is a “second chance” because of the original mistake(s) that we made.

And the circumstances surrounding your mistake, how you got there, what you did, how you did it, and who you did it with, are important to remember as you embark upon your second chance.

I have never forgotten the 10 mistakes I made, and used the learnings as I took advantage of my “Second Chances”.

“Miracles were just second chances if you really thought about it — second chances when all hope was lost.”
Kaya McLaren

I believe that most of us deserve a Second Chance. How about you?

Can you share what your second chance was, and how you made the most of it?

Written by

Leadership Speaker, Writer — Making Ethical Choices: How Great Leaders Make Decisions Differently. Go to www.fiallo.com

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store