A case for time and experience

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And experience?

Yeah. Experience also only comes with time…

Sorry. That’s the way it works.

Now please don’t rag on me about this. I’m not saying young and inexperienced people don’t have value or important things to say and share and demonstrate.

And I’m not saying that after 6 months of doing something you don’t have valuable insights, talents, and skills YOU should share.

I’m not saying that at all. I’ve met some folks exactly in those circumstances…

Not a lot. Some though.


This is what I see all too often in blog posts…

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My Dad was big on doing one’s share. I bet many of your Dads are or were the same way. Dad grew up with these strong beliefs about life. About responsibility. Contributing to the greater good. And about accountability.

It’s about doing your fair share son.

My Dad, Jose Ramon Diaz Valle, was only able to attend school until the 6th grade, and then had gone to work to help out his mother and the family. He had never told me what had happened in his young life, and I had…

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Throughout my young life, arguably the strongest lessons Dad imparted on me was about Family. Family with a capital F. Dad was very inclusive about who was part of the Family too. There were people who weren’t related to us by blood, but I still called them Cousin, or Aunt or Uncle. Because they had been known to me that way throughout my childhood, and they were Family.

The nuclear Family, those we lived with, and those who were directly related to those we lived with, those were FAMILY. My grandmother had 11 brothers…

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Gray areas have gotten me in trouble much of my life. What is a gray area? Oxford Languages defines Gray Areas as —

“an ill-defined situation or field not readily conforming to a category or to an existing set of rules”

The important part of that definition is “ill defined situation”. The problem is that in many cases, what we define as a gray area, isn’t gray at all.

It’s actually very well defined as black or white.

The reality is that if we…

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I didn’t get into too much trouble as a boy. Even as a teenager, I mostly stuck to the right lane, and never strayed into the left. Sure, I had my moments. One of those was the time I came home drunk at age 17. Dad took that opportunity to deliver another life lesson.

I didn’t have a car. One of my friends, John, did. A green mustang. It was the bomb. Great car. Another friend, Jack, took shotgun. I sat in the back. I don’t recall exactly whose Idea it was but…

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When Mom and Dad bought that house in Hialeah, Florida, back in 1962, for the first time in my life, we owned a home. We were all quite proud of it. It was really a simple home. No frills. But to a 12-year-old boy, it was like a castle. The house sat on a modest sized lot, maybe 50 by 100. …


I’m reaching a level of understanding and realization I have never before experienced in my entire existence.

To put it in Heinlein terminology: I grok.

After all these decades, I finally grok. I’m grokking.

I’m not going to define GROK for you. The old me would’ve done that. But the fully grokked me is going to expect you to look it up yourself.

This is one of the key things that I…


What Does it Mean to Be “In Flow”?

In positive psychology, a flow state, also known colloquially as being in “the zone”, is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity — from Wikipedia

What Does it Mean to “Glow”?

To glow is to shine with light. … The radiance of light or pleasure itself can also be called a glow, from the Old English glowan, “to shine as if red-hot.” We GLOW when others can see our enjoyment, fulfillment and sheer joy in our…

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Your Simple Leadership Lesson:

Many books and articles have been written about Leadership. Many really good things have been written. But also, much crap as well.

We really do need to differentiate between the good stuff and the crap!

There are many characteristics of Great Leaders in the literature on Leadership.

Throughout my 45+ year career, both as a follower and a Leader of small, medium, and very large organizations, I used to think of Leadership characteristics in terms of a 3 Legged…

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INTEGRITY — the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness (from Dictionary)

Among the many characteristics of great leaders, in my book, Integrity stands out as number 1, because…

  • Followers, the kind leaders want and need, will be tolerant and patient with lack of skill in particular areas, as well as a lack of experience (after all, Experience requires time)…


We are facing a significant Integrity crisis all over the world. …

Enrique Fiallo

Leadership Speaker, Writer, Coach — Making Ethical Choices: How Great Leaders Make Decisions Differently. Go to www.fiallo.com

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