Why is it such a big DEAL to not have slept with someone by 25?
Okay I’m gonna go on limb here and say that this is a weird, crackheaded, gutter thinking of people who believe that the ones who haven’t have slept with anyone ever- are zygotes! I know there are people who still haven’t played their V card. Some of them are too scared to come out or even date. Our society and the way of thinking has done this to them. So if you are one of those people who firmly hold this view point- pipe down and listen.
The world has undergone a paradigm shift, a lot has changed to some extent. Let’s not beat around the bush and address the matter. You CANNOT make fun of someone who hasn’t slept with anyone/ or never has kissed anyone or has never had any physical encounters, there are legal consequences. Even is someone was unable to or doesn’t want to date, you cannot make fun of them. We have to draw a line here. Bullying, making fun, and teasing is all what is wrong with this world. People need to take mental health seriously. Believe me when I say this, this topic makes me writhe with nervous irritation. When you don’t know anyone’s story then you don’t judge and neither do you pass snide comments. That’s how it is.
People have said so many things to me to make me look bad, small and pathetic, those bad things range from career perspective and the fact that I haven’t slept with anyone yet. Now in my case the reasons was that I was not able to find someone (the right person) and the guys I went out with- let’s just say it didn’t work out. one guy even said that he wants to sleep with me because then he would be sure that I will not leave him. Sick. Keep your viewpoints to yourself, ask before giving advice and understand. I would ask you to read a little Psychology so that you know what and when to say based on what someone has been through but this is pure logical. The worst thing you can do to someone is make them do something, push them in that direction which according to YOU is the best, but it is not. Might be best for you, but not for them and even if it is, let them decide for themselves- DONOT pull their strings unless you want the sword of blame, regret and guilt swaying on your head.
A long time ago when I had a fight with my elder brother I was told to bring a stick from the yard ( don’t worry I was not whacked). My mother asked me to break it, and so I did and it broke easily. Then she asked me to bring a bunch of sticks and break them, which I was unable to. Moral? When you are standing single handedly then it is very easy for someone to break you unless you are Mike Tyson. However if you have people standing with you, your family, and friends then- break you? they won’t be able to touch you. On the contrary they will be scared of you and your back. We need to stand together, united and protect the ones who care about us and the ones we care about. Understand, it is not that big of a word but the meaning of it is quite heavy. In the end I want to say, “Place yourself in that person’s shoes. Don’t do anything to ANYONE , you don’t want happening to you. The Earth is round for a reason, what you give is what you get.”