Good personal essay. If I could add two cents, it would be to say that I do think worries over a “biological clock” can be overblown. I had two healthy children after the age of 35. It only took one or two cycles to get pregnant each time. It’s not always a struggle.
And, if you are ever tempted to think no woman over 40 could possibly get pregnant naturally, just remind yourself of a woman named “Rielle Hunter,” who gave birth to the love child of a major presidential candidate at age 43.