Listen, to each his own but I am merely expressing my own opinions in my statement and my own perspective. Not particularly trying to insult anyone but certainly giving a critical view. I am an unremitting food snob who is not even hardly willing to eat at McDonald’s if it’s the only restaurant for many miles. I suppose I am a sex snob too. I can’t say that I speak for all women, which is not something that I said, and perhaps my views are outside of the mainstream as it is reflected through popular culture. Yet my perspective is valid and I’m voicing it here.
Fuckboyism is a genuine problem that many women are struggling with at this time. Simply google the word “fuckboy” and you will encounter myriad articles about the issue. The problem is not that men want to have sex sometimes without emotional attachment but that this goal and the behaviors that go with it are often incompatible with the goals and inner landscapes of the women that they do it with. Often a woman may even think in the moment that she is ok with it, only to become entangled subsequently in a very negative emotional experience when the man she has had sex with then treats her like trash. I feel that a big part of the problem with this pattern is the current popularity of the concept that sex is something that occurs completely devoid of emotions and relational context, and also the misogynistic spin on sex that is so often conveyed in porn, which the original article pointed out.
Men and women’s brains truly are wired differently and perhaps the concept of emotionless sex makes sense to you. Obviously it makes sense to huge swathes of the population. I am being honest with you that for me it does not. Even if I were to have a one night stand or receive a sensual massage from a man, it would be a meaningful experience for me involving layers of energy and emotion and not something I would treat like I had just taken a piss.
