Respect to everything you said. Just wanted to pipe in that my experience is that sex can get a lot better down the line with a partner with whom the first time wasn’t that great. I consider the first time having sex with a partner to always be the worst time. For me that is because you don’t know what each other likes, you haven’t found your rhythm together and you haven’t yet created an emotional connection.
I don’t ever do one night stands for emotional reasons. If I have sex with a guy I’ll always try it at least a couple more times because I want to feel out our connection and what that guy is about. I guess I’m a bit old fashioned like that.
But the notion that guys won’t respect you if you have sex on the first date is hogwash. If there is any troglodyte around who thinks that way he doesn’t really deserve to get laid.
What I have noticed about guys is that they lose respect if you get emotionally hung upon them too quickly. And sometimes this can come with having sex soon, for sex can mean real intimacy and closeness for women.
