Is perfectionism harmful for education?

Probably every parent wants his child to have success in all his endeavors, to be in the limelight every day, to conquer new heights. Seemingly innocuous dreams, but more often they are accompanied by moral pressure against the background of parental authority. The child has to meet the standards of a demanding mother, but what is the price of such life position?

With the mention of the term “ perfectionism” a lot of questions arise, but they are dispelled once you hear a synonym “A-pupil syndrome”. In fact, perfectionism is called man’s desire since childhood to achieve own perfection. This desire does not arise out of nowhere, and often is being pushed by strict and demanding parents.

Perfectionism is more common for girls, and starting from elementary grades, and become pretty sure they must be better than their peers. As a consequence, they always try to get rave reviews in their address. Later on, such children have difficulties in getting on with different risky things. Even a simple order of term paper writing seems impossible for them, and it is obvious that they have no thoughts about any projects or self-developing actions, that require to apply for the risk.

Scientists have proven that it is a kind of “mental illness”, which is acquired and partly requires treatment.

If we are talking about the diagnosis, the question arises, what are the symptoms, what to pay attention to in a timely manner, to quickly recognize a perfectionist? Below are some of the evaluation criteria, which are, in fact, have no age restrictions. So:

• categoricy in everything.

• vision of life only in black and white;

• striving for leadership in school, university, in the workplace;

• only studying motive is the admiration and excellent grades;

• unstable self-esteem, which is dependent on the opinions of others;

• painful perception of their own mistakes, and joy at the sight of other people’s blunders;

• urgent need for praise, compliments, general recognition;

• perception of each failure as the tragedy of the life;

• jealous attitude to the successes and achievements of others;

• emotional instability, tendency to depression.

And this is not all of the symptoms, which can be described perfectionist.

Scientists have identified the following pattern: the older a perfectionist becomes, the more inner troubles he suffers. Simply put, as they grow older a person becomes closed, self-critical, rude and uncommunicative, which negatively affects his psyche, relationships with the environment, the future fate.

As it can be seen, the excessive perfectionism and syndrome of an A-student can destroy the whole life of the person.