The best place for us all to start the practice of our deconditioning & reconditioning is with our practice of sex, both alone & with partners, because sex is the human social behavior that’s least codified by the dominant culture which prescribes everything in our lives until the moment when the lights go down & we are skin to skin, making love, and possibly procreating.

Women have just earned the right to give verbal consent. It’s a crack in the wall of patriarchy’s oppression of all genders — a tiny opening where there was none before. I invite you all…


Speaking Sex isn’t the same as having sex. You can Speak Sex all you want & be a virgin or asexual or abstain. You can Speak Sex all you want & be beyond reproach & supremely moral. Words aren’t Actions. Signs aren’t the things they refer to. Confusing signs for their referents (words for the things they mean) is the reason why it’s harder for some of us to Speak Sex than to have sex. Isn’t it crazy when you think of it? Wouldn’t you like to be able to say anything & not fear plain simple words & sounds?


The patriarchy has been spawned by the (male-identifying) mind over at least six thousand years with the sole purpose of reversing the female body’s reproductive advantage. By means of language & psychology, education & currency, religion & accreditation, law & military, & the numerous other constructs of the mind (& its chemistry), it has sought to organize & perpetuate this cultural role reversal of the biological body’s gender-based reproductive dependency/terror. The terror of being alone & mortal.

Society as we know it exists to protect men from women because Nature favors women, so Society favors men. Because women are the…


Sex is the first knowledge. Long before we had come up with words & counting & time & currency, we knew sex & why it mattered to us collectively most of all. It mattered for our collective advantage long before it mattered for our tribal advantage.

It’s the energy source, the fire common to us all that unites us past (learned, codified) reason & fear & false organizational tyrannies. It’s prelingual & will be post lingual, just as it is pre-homo sapiens & will be post homo sapiens. …


To Speak Sex, we acknowledge that Sex is a human right. A human right to the body’s pleasure & feeling of completion. We need to learn to Speak Sex as if it were a new language within our daily familiar language. We don’t need to change all the words we use in fancy ways to show our allyship or wokeness. We use all the body-related words and ‘reverse’ their standard normative (patriarchal) meaning & their signaling (meaning) in the overall narrative. We can speak sex in any language. We speak not have sex. We speak-not do-sex. We speak not make…


Sex is a human right & a human imperative. Sexual justice is the Experience of the Freedom and Power of Speaking Sex. Speaking Sex Means not speaking in metaphors. Speak Sex is a conversation of liberation. Feel the Transformative Language of Consent, of Intentional Intimacy. I call it Speak Sex to emphasize how we devalue & disrespect our nature & over-value our mental faculties. It’s in this Re-evaluation that seismic social change can happen.

I am Eve Eurydice. I know about the power of words. I was born on the island of Lesbos, and by virtue of my toponym &…


As We Write, We Consciously Open Up Space in The Language to Contain Those of Us Who Were For Generations Silenced or Misnamed

I began writing on the island of Lesbos (where I was born) at the age of two when I broke my femur & had to lie in bed in a full-body cast for two months. First I taught myself to read phonetically. I read the writing on every page of the children’s books that had been piled on the floor by my guilty parents to keep me company in that pre B&W-TV time, & then improved it…


THE SEXUAL HONESTY COMMITMENT

Let’s be honest: most heteronormative people are not honest about sex. We are not honest with our lovers because we don’t know how to be and we are not honest with ourselves. Our formative society — our parents, our schools, our early peer groups — did not teach us how to be sexual beings in the world. We were taught how to spell and conjugate, how to tell time and memorize nursery rhymes, how to count and calculate numbers, how to drive a car and speak a foreign tongue or two. …


This is one of those times when a crack, a fissure, a faultline, has opened in the system, & that is our invitation. For the first place in written human history, Western women have earned the power to say No to men by giving or denying verbal sexual consent. I suggest starting with sex because we don’t have to unlearn as much, since our parents, schools, mentors, cultures haven’t taught us how to speak to each other about sex, since patriarchy prefers that sex takes place beyond the realm of language, in the silence & shame that fit a leftover…

Eurydice Eve

writer artist activist. Universal Mother Income UMI. Satyricon USA. f/32. Host of Speak Sex with Eve Eurydice podcast & YouTube & blog.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store