I was invited via email to a meeting a few months ago by a man at my church. The emailed read “I have been learning in recent times that as a child of white middle class privilege, it can be difficult for me to be aware of or understand some of the significant challenges faced in this country by people of color, particularly some of my friends and acquaintances from the African American community.” He then asked me and others as well, “would you be willing to come to my home and share a meal with me and spend some time sharing your own story with me of your personal experience growing up and living in America as a black person?

My purpose is only and purely to grow in understanding. Of course, I know I will never ever understand in a complete way, but I am wondering if I can grow further beyond my current deficit of understanding.”

Of course I went to his home, along with multiple others. I listened and I shared as people, some with tears in their eyes, shared their experiences of overt racism, covert racism, and prejudice. It was a powerfully moving experience for me. But what impressed me most and what I feel was the most beautiful thing that took place that evening was the fact that this white man opened up his home and gave a listening ear. He didn’t try and make excuses, he didn’t try and justify, all he did was be a great host and listen. Even when emotions ran hot, he did not get defensive or try and calm the emotion down.

He just listened. Listening in humility with a heart to understand the other person, or people’s perspective and experiences, can be a powerful tool in the goal to heal old wounds and bring peace in a time of turmoil.

-By Eldridge Fantroy

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,(James 1:19)