The Fear Factor
The most important stories are the ones we refuse to tell ourselves, the truths parked in the garage of our hearts that we often live in denial of. It's not as if we don't know who we are. But we are afraid, that our being will not appeal to the other person. We are afraid, that if we chose the path our heart leads us to, we will walk alone and we are afraid of loneliness. We want people to look at us, to approve of us, to embrace our journey.To nod their heads, to be impressed.
We want to love and be loved but how can you love another person, or require another person to love you when you don't even love yourself?
We feel accountable to society, to our families. They ask us what we want, yet they prescribe for us what we should do, who we should become and what dreams we shouldn't dream. We are afraid of being tagged rebels.
This fear drives us to the wrong relationships and marriages and this fear makes us stay in them even in the face of abuse and imminent death. Pursuing careers that have no place in our hearts.
We live in fear because we haven't come to a realization of who we really are and why we are here. There are countless books and messages on the purpose of life and existence. Workshops and seminars to help people "Discover their purpose".
But how can a man discover his purpose when he is not one with his identity?
I like think our primary purpose here is to BE. To exist in our true ourselves, consciously;that the best way to expel fear is to love ourselves truly, wholly, sometimes selfishly.