Shaming of mothers? Would calling those who choose to stay at home soft and lazy be considered shaming? Sure seems that way to me.
Insulin is a biological necessity. Diabetics have trouble producing it, so they get it from elsewhere. That doesn’t make them less human. Mothers milk is similarly a biological necessity. Just because you can get it elsewhere, or create something that’s close enough to it does not make it less so, and just because there are these men with useless nipples and other people who cannot breastfeed does not make them lesser parents. I can’t carry a child. Does that make me a worse father?
As well, regarding the benefits of breastfeeding — its benefits are manifold. From a selfish, mother oriented perspective, it helps lose baby weight and women who breastfeed have lessened risks of breast cancer. For the child, there’s immunological benefits, social benefits, and higher IQ’s. This is not controversial. To say that a woman if she is capable should breastfeed — that’s what the association of American Pediatrics says — does not make those who do not selfish, awful, or less than those that do. That you think that? That’s your problem. That people, for some reason, feel this way? Again, that’s their problem. We make numerous health decisions for ourselves, for our children, and for those around us each day. I haven’t put my child in music class from a young age. What the hell is wrong with me? More importantly, what the hell is wrong with others who do this and cite the benefits of doing so? They’re trying to shame me as a father.