Focus on the jewels
Do you know what a jewel is?
These are jewels…
That’s where the word JEWELRY comes from.
Now there’s a hard word to pronounce. jewel-ry, joool-re, say it, jool-ree…. good job. :)
I am going to use jewels metaphorically here. So don’t take the word literally.
After reading this post I hope that you start noticing all the good things that you already have in your life.
The nice things, beautiful things, happy things, pleasant things; all the positive things that happen every day to all of us, but we forget to notice.
The jewels that fill our lives.
A day full of jewels
As humans, we have a tendency to focus on the negative. The bad. The ugly.
Here’s an example…
Let’s say you just had a performance review with your boss, and he said a lot of good things about you, but he also mentioned one negative thing about your performance.
Which “thing” would stay in your mind after the meeting?
The one bad thing.
So you might get really upset about it, talk bad about your boss, which a colleague would overhear (hear without the speaker knowing), then this person would tell your boss, and you’d get fired.
A pretty shitty hypothetical situation.
Why do we always focus on the bad?
It’s based on survival.
Thousands of years ago we needed to pay a lot of attention to the bad that could happen in order to stay alive.
But it’s not our reality today.
We are 100x safer these days than we used to be, so we need to start acting like it.
And focus on the good more than the bad.
In the book, “Hardwiring Happiness”, the author teaches you how to train your brain to start noticing the good things that happen to you.
Our brains create our reality.
They control our emotions and how we react to everything that happens to us.
And through conscious practice we can start causing our brains to focus on the happy things, instead of instinctively going into “survival mode” and being scared and mad all the time.
All you have to do is start paying more attention to the jewels in your day.
Some examples of jewels:
- Having a job that pays your bills
- Having people help you pay your bills when you can’t
- Being healthy
- Having supportive friends
- Eating a tasty lunch
- Having a fan near your bed when it’s hot at night (this is a big jewel for me)
- Seeing someone smile
- Feeling the sun on your face
- Feeling raindrops on your face
- Playing with a dog
- Being alive
All of these little jewels of life are often taken for granted (not appreciated), but they are precisely what we need to start bringing to our attention.
All it takes is 30 seconds, a few times a day, to take in (absorb) the good in your life. The jewels.
How to Notice the Jewels
I released a podcast episode on the book, “Hardwiring Happiness”, a fantastic lesson on how to be happier.
It teaches you techniques you can start applying that will train your brain to start noticing the good more often.
These are really easy techniques, and they work.
And I also throw in a couple short advanced English lessons.
Want to transform your English learning with lessons like these? I create a weekly podcast which you should definitely check out. Download five of my best episodes (with transcripts) here