Perhaps a good way to think would be like Scott Adams (the Dilbert creator). His point is that ‘goals are for losers, systems are for winners’. So just try to follow a system — eating better and getting exercise — instead of a goal like losing 8 pounds. Keep to the system and you’ll lose weight anyway as just one benefit. Applies to everything, so you are likely to be more successful with your system for creating and feeling. Good luck with it, and I look forward to reading about it.