Yeah, but you see this as a good thing, and some of us don’t.
Kris Gage
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Very well stated, and typically ignored by people who refuse to grasp the concept that not everyone has EVER liked dating or thought it was a viable way to get to know someone.

But then again, the OP also has the distorted view that he knows whether “women want to be asked” or expect men to “take the lead,” without the slightest clue that such an opinion is not remotely universally held by the 7+ billion women out there. If his perceptions of what a date should be are accurate — though frankly I think they are mostly as mythical as the idea that the nuclear family was ever the norm — I hope it does die out. Because I found it to be an entirely ineffective and pointless exercise that left too many people pretending to be something they weren’t, in order to impress the other person into a subsequent date, so people would spend months with a person before finding out they were wholly incompatible. Maybe someone like him enjoyed all that rigmarole of gender stereotyping — I’ll stand in line to pay for my own movie ticket, thanks — but that doesn’t make it applicable to anyone else.

I’ll bet the OP also thinks there’s validity in those arbitrary dating rules, like not talking about politics or religion on a first date, which served no legitimate function other than to further prevent people from being themselves throughout the beginning of a relationship. He reminds me the guys I’ve dealt with on dating sites (sites, not apps), who tell me they don’t want to “waste a lot of time” getting to know someone via email before they exchange phone numbers or meet in person — the kind of men I reject instantly because they refuse to recognize that getting to know how a person thinks and communicates in words is a better use of my time than wasting it going out with someone you have nothing in common with.

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