Sensuality Is A Dish Best Served…

Preparation Is Everything

I can’t help but be drawn to the scene in Bourdaine’s cult classic show of his book by the same name Kitchen Confidential … with the episode promptly titled An Affair To Remember. When the kitchen finds out Jim (a young in-experienced cook) is a virgin and realize it’s why he can’t cook!

Dramatized? Perhaps. Some of us are intuitively in tuned to the nature of life before we actually do it… but none the less, reality is always virtual in THIS existence, until you actually serve it. Because how you serve something is so complex and deep just this paragraph alone will stir the souls of many readers. Picking up on all the subtle hints of my notes. While completely un-whiff-able to those virgin batters just coming to the table regardless of intuitive understanding.

Perhaps two of the most… scratch that… I’m going to be bolder…

THE Two MOST Intimate Things In THIS Life ARE FOOD… And Sex… both a Sensual “inner” “course” between beings.

Give me a woman unafraid to cook with me in the kitchen, unintimidated in the nature of what she is able to create, more than simply dish out… and I will surely, as clear as day, be able to set off a vibe that anyone witnessing with a pulse; will be able to sense.

I’d be so bold to say if the right people approached me about opening a “Sensual School For Cooking” … we could create a class of sensual beings unto themselves. That Chefs have become known as “playboys” is no fluke. On a deep level we are in touch with a depth of feelings many people only dream of. And while self stimulation and pleasure is often enjoyable, like our dishes… it goes FAR beyond self gratification. And our intentions are often lost in the pain of life. (Which is true for ALL beings)

This can get lost in the fast pace “get it now” mentality of the world. The “what have you done for me lately” way of living. In the days of “profits VS prophets” … on the surface it seems one is clearly winning. I’d differ without begging. Ask the most renown Chefs in the world what is the difference between a refined cook and an un refined cook… and get back to me. This is where the quality will prevail over the quantity.

It’s almost impossible to share the sensual nuances of life’s flavors with anyone in life’s kitchen these days it would seem. We don’t “really” listen to each other.

We don’t really want to learn the subtle flavors of the fruits that age every SECOND!

Listen… there is nothing wrong with eating the same junk food all the time. There is nothing wrong with drinking the same discount wine every night. I’ll be the transparent and say it’s not this writers preference. Yet truly I enjoy ALL of Life… but at heart I am a hopeful romantic.

If you want to serve your sensuality you must learn to prepare yourself. And like food… not in some preconceived way. Not waiting for someone else too. Not by feeling pressure. Not in some predetermined way. There have been so many moments in life… at times where I’m preparing for many, many people (FOOD you perverts!) … something special.

Literally a special… for the restaurant

And staff & those around ask as I’m floating around inside … “What are you making Chef?” And I respond with little thought… “I’m not sure.” Sometimes hours away from service! Lol

Sensuality isn’t a destination. It isn’t something that depends on results. In fact… I’m going to let you in on a secret for those who don’t know. People who taste it, aren’t always going to like it. Some of them are not going to have the pallets for it. Some will get a taste of it… and want you to make the same dish over and over again… only for you to become a sensual slave to their lack of feeling sensual within their own conscious awareness. Because sensuality requires the time you give to it.

You see my lovely readers. Sensuality is to be served.

Not dished. It is to be enjoyed. It is something you fall in love with one bite at a time. You will never dissect it through critique. You will never even come to know it “in fact”… approaching it in such manner.

I dare you all. As a home-play assignment. If you want to find more sensuality in your relationship(s)… ask someone to cook with you. Anything. A grilled cheese sandwich would suffice. Before hand, all parties take a deep breathe, slow the state of “action first”… and set intentions of making the best sandwich you’ve ever tasted. Without “expecting” it to taste any particular way. It may even be an eye opening experience making you completely aware your partner(s) is far from feeling what comfort and confidence is inside of sensuality. But if the comfort and willingness it there…

Set the intention of creating together in mutual comfort with absolute respect and honesty. If at any point anyone feels uncomfortable or intimidated… serve that before continuing. Move together. Whether it means touching or not touching… (I love touching) but feeling every motion of the other. At first you may feel uncomfortable. It’s important not to deny this nor ignore it. We call it the “feeling out process”. To move into a deeper sensuality beyond simple stimulation it’s important you become aware slowing down is the only way. (I know a lot of you don’t want to HERE this) So here is something that may help. I find if you feel excited it’s easier to simply say you feel excited and energized… than to try to hold it in and “match” any conceived notion of composure. Like on a blazing line in the middle of a “Rush” it’s better for the entire process if everyone is honest and open relying on each other rather than to attempt controlling the uncontrollable. Since a deep intimacy is the salvation of any emotion… this is what we are learning as things heat up. This is what we are creating together. We are in a space many people, let alone Chefs, really give time to develop. So if it takes 10 minutes or and hour to make this sandwich… don’t worry.

Time is of little concerned when learning the preparation of something extraordinary.