Drag Queens and me.
Or “Why is this such a big thing?
It’s been a curious thing, that I’ve seen repeatedly among many transwomen I’ve followed on Twitter, or talked to off the interwebs(admittedly a rare occurrence).
Having several friends in risque businesses of various kinds, I have found such people to be rarely of any threat to my lifestyle. They’re trying to make a living. Some of them are under the impression that their career path is the only way they can ever so secretly let themselves be free.
Yes. Some of them are closeted eggs who feel trapped in a masculine life. They get glimmers of hope where they can be themselves for several hours a day, and those lucky bastards even manage to pay their bills doing it.
Now, certainly, there are some drag Queens, and some of their audience, who give being trans an awkward time. Yes. Some drag shows are openly transphobic.
But I do not believe it is drag shows, in general, that the trans community should be targeting. It is those who use drag shows to either parley, or prop up, their transphobia.
In point of fact, the amount of discourse about what is, and isn’t transphobic among the transgender community is frankly irritating, and shows exactly how chaotic and fragmented the nature of the transgender community is.
My opinions on drag queens are far from the norm, for certain. The belief that we should be reaching out to them, as some of them may, in fact, be some of us, comes across as too forgiving of perceived transphobia, and my firm belief that they have much to offer us in return(From contouring and makeup tips, to the wonderful world of tucking, these people are professionals at this sort of thing. Literally) are frequently dismissed as unnecessary discourse, but I believe it to be true.
Perhaps, just perhaps, it may even be necessary.
As we struggle, every day, to be accepted for who we are, turning aside a potential ally, or closeted sister may do more harm than good.
How many drag Queens, I wonder, have come to dislike the Transgender community, for the unbridled hatred that the community issues them? How much of our hate has turned public faces, who may once have advocated for our cause, in turn support transphobic candidates, and made enemies for us, that dissuade voters from voting for our cause?
I find it curious that advocating for the inclusion of(and protection of) people who are similarly targeted by hate not unlike the hate we, ourselves, face is an act of discourse, but it is truth. Drag Queens face a lot of very public hate, and in some communities, protest, and threats against their lives.
The transgender community does not even blink, to defend groups like black lives matter, or sex workers(and rightly so), yet we take aim at people who could be very valuable allies, and we weaponize them, for our opponents.
Forgive me for saying this, but no war was ever won by shooting one’s self in the foot.