What if you hate your job? Find different work. But don’t hate hard work because you had a bad experience or other people tell you so.
True love, in the nun’s definition, is the one that lasts even when the passion fades. It is independent from sexual attraction.
Paying too much attention to details while planning will just unnecessarily slow you down. If you are waiting for something to happen, make a quick estimate of the odds to see how long you will have to wait.