To Be Honest, the Most Real Feeling After a Man Gets Married Is Just One Word
What does marriage mean to you? I think this question is worth each of us reflecting on. Some people say that marriage is a gamble for a woman, choosing a marriage is choosing a life.
But I think marriage is also a challenge for men, as it means taking on responsibilities and burdens. When a man gets married, he needs to take on more responsibilities, and only he knows the bitter and sweet struggles that come with it.
My wife and I have been married for three years now. When we first got married, our emotional state was pretty good, but after having a child, our conflicts also increased.
After the child was born, our daily expenses also increased, and I was the only one earning money, so it was tough. I could understand why she was struggling to raise our child, so I compromised on many things.
As the old saying goes, “Men have tears they cannot shed.” Before, I thought I could handle everything, but now, facing family responsibilities, I also have unspoken struggles.
I used to think that a happy family was simple, but after getting married, I realized that every family has its own difficulties.
The pressure of life is crushing me, and now I’m facing emotional pressure, and I’m struggling to cope because the more responsibilities I have, the more pressure I feel.
These few years of marriage have made me realize that the most real feeling is just one word: difficult.
Men Also Need to Be Cared For
As Lin Huiyin once said, “This world has no one who is not wounded.”
In emotional life, it’s the same principle. Every person has their own helplessness when facing emotions. People often say that being a woman is not easy, but in reality, being a man is even harder.
After getting married, men also develop a sense of responsibility. Men also need to be cared for. When two people are together, the most important thing is to care for each other. If they can’t even do that, their emotions will eventually fade.
Men face many things outside, and when they come home, they need a warm hug. Men also have a sensitive side, but they rarely show their tears. The longer two people are together, the more men need emotional support.
When facing marriage, women should also give men more understanding. For a man, a woman’s understanding is the best love.
Love Is Mutual
Many women become full-time homemakers after getting married, and the responsibility of earning a living falls entirely on the man. However, this kind of life is unsustainable. Emotions are beautiful, but marriage is not about crushing each other; it’s about having someone by your side when you’re helpless.
Love requires going through many hardships. In this world, love requires effort, but it also requires reciprocity. If you take someone’s effort for granted, your emotions will eventually fade.
Love is a two-way street, and only when two people love each other can they receive more happiness.
Two people meeting is already a kind of fate. Since fate has brought them together, they should learn to maintain their relationship well. Emotions are not one person’s responsibility; only when you understand the meaning of love can your love have more possibilities.
Men Also Have Pain
As Zhang Ailing once said, “Men in their middle age often feel lonely.”
As men get older, they also need care and concern. Men have their own worries, and sometimes we can’t see their tears because they consume their emotions alone.
In life, men also have many helplessness. In the emotional world, men naturally have many struggles. Men also have their own pain, and when a man doesn’t get the warmth he deserves in a relationship, his passion for emotions will gradually fade.
They need more care and concern from their wives, more respect and understanding. Only then can their marital relationship be more harmonious. Two people coming together to form a family is not an easy task; if they hurt each other because of life’s trivialities, it’s not worth it.
