My life changed completely since I’ve decided to run my business. I can have real quality time with my family.

This post is not about entrepreneurship, as you can choose the work/life balance that fits you also if you work for a great company that has amazing HR policies in place such as Buffer (Yes I’m a fan). It’s about organizing your life and prioritizing everything in it yourself.

I feel more and more companies are switching towards this practice as they finally realize that 9–5 office-only policies are hurting business productivity, and that great team members are responsible enough to make the best choices regarding their work schedule, priorities and results. They don’t go through the day according to the number of hours they do but actually how much work needs to be done. Whether it’s early in the morning or late at night - who cares - as it leads to increased productivity, job satisfaction, better health and happiness.

But not everyone is able to perform well remotely or in a start-up where you are accountable for basically everything you do. Some people perform much better in an office with a fixed schedule, and that’s fine. As long as you are aware of your work preferences and know which environment is best for you.

I’ve always thought that when I’d finally got to have my business, I would most certainly - and gladly - devote all my time, energy and passion into it, as I do when I’m in love with my work. And that is the right (and only) way to go for entrepreneurship. I truly believe that you have to hustle to get what you want in life.

So why am I not putting countless of work hours per day as I thought I would ?

It’s been a year and while I’m overall proud with what we’ve achieved so far with Frenchgrad, I’m far from satisfied. Lately, I’ve worried too much and beaten myself up over and over again for not working “enough”, for being tired at night and I even felt guilty for going to sleep and dedicated time to my family. You have to understand that I’ve always been career-oriented and being a housewife or stay-at-home-mum (while it’s great for many) was definitely not for me. But I didn’t know that being a mum would change - in a good way - my priorities in life. I didn’t know that I would want to spend every waking moment with my daughter.

She just turned two and doesn’t go to school yet. She spends all day with me and her father. I work in mornings and evenings till late at night and my husband works during night. It’s a bit of a crazy schedule really, tough at times but worth it. We are also lucky to be able to live with only one income for now.

Here is my schedule at the moment. (I’ve changed it many times to fit our needs.)

So yeah, I can’t possibly squeeze in 18h, but I guess I still achieve a fair amount of work while having 4–6 hours of real quality time with my daughter and getting enough sleep.

The time slot that I dedicate to my daughter & husband from 4–6pm is new. For a year I used to miss out on all the fun activities my husband & Emma did; parks, playgrounds, swimming pool… But I want to be a part of that too.

The thing is, I always plan the future - which is great because it allowed us to study & work abroad in 3 countries for over 5 years - but I tend to forget to live in the present. I’ve become aware of it recently and know how much the “now” is important.

I want to be able to live my dreamed life right now, not next month or next year. My daughter is never gonna be 2 again. In a couple of years she’ll do plenty of things on her own, so I’ll be able to put more time into my business. But for now, I choose to be there for her.

I truly feel blessed every day for having the possibility to organize my work day while bonding with my daughter, taking care of her education and fully enjoying my role as a mother.

I’m eager to live in the moment and I’m at peace with my life choices.
Life is short, enjoy it! I know I do.

Aurelie

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